Fragmented to Whole

Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

This podcast can help you go from fragmented to whole. The title of the podcast comes from my journey of recovery in 12 step programs where I came in feeling fragmented and now I AM WHOLE. I talk about how that happened, and many of the lessons I've learned in recovery. I cover such topics as learning acceptance, overcoming unrealistic expectations, intimacy, forgiveness and boundaries.

All episodes are 20 minutes or less, most are less than 15. The first episode is my story in brief so you'll hear about the kind of profound life changes that I experienced in 12-step recovery. Other episodes cover specific topics such as Acceptance, Victim Mentality, Overcoming Negative Thought Loops, etc. You don't have to be in recovery to benefit from it though!

One last (very important) thing. I don't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though I'm a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, I cannot speak them. Take what you want and leave the rest.

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Fragmented to Whole Podcast 26: My Part in Things

Understanding your part in things means you learn what to STOP doing so that your life can get better. Show NotesI describe some examples of coming to understand my part in things in an effort to help you understand your part in the chaos and drama of your life so you can stop doing those…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 25: Act As If

If you are having difficulty changing your thinking and behavior, learn how to act your way into right thinking based on this popular 12-step slogan. Show NotesRecovery programs are programs of action, not of thinking or believing. This episode addresses why that is the case, and gives methods for how to behave your way into…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 24: Stinkin’ Thinkin’

If you’ve had the same negative thoughts about yourself forever and keep finding evidence that those thoughts are true, this episode will show you a way out of that kind of stinkin’ thinkin’. Show NotesStinkin’ thinkin’ is when the thoughts we think over and over again are negative, which affects what we pay attention to…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 23: Denial 2.0

In this episode I illustrate how deeply entrenched our own denial can be by sharing a story of my own denial that took me years to see. Show NotesIf you have a high tolerance for dysfunction you might be in denial about your own behavior. This can lead to you being dishonest with yourself and…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 22: TMI

Learn about how stopping giving too much information reduces the opportunity for others to disagree. Show NotesLearn to stop giving too much information to others, especially when you’re setting a boundary or negotiating. This reduces the chances that others can dispute what you’re saying and makes it easier to act.

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 21: Isolation vs. Healthy Alone Time

If you spend a lot of time alone and aren’t sure if you’re isolating (which is unhealthy) or spending healthy alone time this episode will help you figure that out. Show NotesThe difference between isolating and healthy alone time is how it affects your energy. If you’re fending off the world by isolating yourself, that’s…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 20: Humility

If you suffer from the belief that you have it much worse off than anyone else, OR that you’re better than other people, then this episode is for you! Show NotesIn this episode I discuss humility as meaning you’re no better and no worse than anyone else. That goes for people who think they’re better…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 19: Control

If you are constantly trying to control people and the world around you, this episode uses a metaphor that will give you some perspective on how you might let go of that control. Show NotesControl is an issue for just about everyone in recovery, and this episode addresses how to back away from being so…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 18: One Day at a Time

This often-quoted 12 step slogan is explained to highlight the importance of breaking things down into smaller parts which results in much less anxiety andworry. Show NotesThis slogan helps remind us to keep the focus on the present, rather than living into “the wreckage of the future.” In this episode, you will learn how to…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 17: Guilt and Shame

If you’ve been riddled with guilt and shame your whole life, listen to this podcast to learn where they likely come from and how to get over the debilitating effects of such shame and guilt. Show NotesPeople who grow up in dysfunctional families are often riddled with guilt and shame, often in profound and debilitating…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 16: D-E-N-I-A-L

Learn the various ways in which we deny the dysfunction in our lives, including minimizing abuse, forgetting dysfunctional episodes and not putting things together that are connected. Show NotesIf you grew up in a dysfunctional family, chances are you’re in denial about a lot of things, like perhaps you think of abusive and dysfunctional behaviors…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 15: Helping vs. Rescuing

This episode will help you begin to see where helpful behavior becomes rescuing behavior so you can change your ways from rescuing others, to simply being helpful. Show NotesIf you get drained and resentful about helping others, you want to hear this episode! In it you will learn to tell the difference between being helpful…

What listeners are saying

"Barb, it's clear that you're speaking from your lived experience, and what you talk about is beyond the rooms of recovery. You actually operationalize recovery."

- C

"Barb. My goodness. I just finished your [One Day at a Time] podcast. It was incredible. Thank you....

So I've listened to your first podcast. I was connected to what you said especially how your life has changed.  PAUSE, which I've learned about and love. And flawsome. Amen...Thanks so much. You give hope. It was powerful...

Just listened to #2 Acceptance. Gonna have to listen again. It was powerful. What really comes across is your sincerity. Thanks."

- K

"Hey! Finally started listening  to your podcast. It’s really good.  I listen to over 1000 podcast probably in the past two years. Your shit is official. You’re totally Flawsome.  You’re like a dynamic special ops recovery person. You're totally sensitive and have the [anonymous program]  active listening and true compassion characteristics. Combined with a little bit of adorable cheesiness (e.g. Flawsome). But then also like a tough guy old timer that’s gruff and doesn’t take shit from people."

- J

"I'm a minute and 22 seconds into your episode on Acceptance... I still have these [negative] thoughts...The solution: growth mindset and surrounding myself with this kind of information...thank you for doing this, definitely helps motivate me..."

- E

"Your podcast was a delight to listen to. Authenticity, sincerity starts within and re-parenting oneself with gentleness, humor, love and respect are the tools that fuels the process."

- A

"Full of useful, helpful guidance!!!! So, I say thank you for your efforts! It was not preachy at all - and I guard against 'preachiness.' ...Thank you for your efforts Barb."

- A.C

"I play [your podcasts] for people when I give them rides home from meetings. They find them awesome as I do...I am hoping to begin using your podcasts in groups at work - short enough to hold people's attention and wonderful topics that all can benefit from as we try to bring healing and freedom from suffering into the world...you are a delight and a noble soul. Thank you. Grateful for your commitment to help heal our planet."

- R

"If I had to describe it....I bathed in episodes 1-3 this morning and I feel much more prepared to engage in the tasks that will bring me success...thank you."

- V

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