Ep 185 – The Origins and Effects of Adult Child Trauma Part 1

I often get asked how we all got our adult child attachment and adult child trauma issues and the short answer is from not having our needs met as a child or what I used to think of as the absence of “good things” happening for me in my childhood. This can be anything from emotional invalidation or being gaslighted by our families, pretending things that are happen aren’t happening, or avoiding something big and horrendous happening and acting like everything is fine. The list goes on. This week’s episode 185 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the origins and effects of adult child trauma. 

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing excerpts from the book Adult Children of Alcoholics, affectionately known as the “big red book,” and my journey and perspective of understanding adult child trauma. 

Some of the excerpts I cover in part 1 of this episode include:

  • Trusting the perception of our own lived reality.
  • Growing up in a home with a lack of responsibility to sanity.
  • Denying the reality of pain and abuse and feeling guilty for asking for our needs to be met. 
  • Abusing and abandoning ourselves based on learned behavior. 
  • Denying our feelings, hiding vulnerability, and relying on codependency to survive. 

Healing your adult child trauma does not happen overnight. It is a journey. But the more you understand where it comes from, the closer you will be to growing from it.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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