Show Notes Just because you think something, doesn’t mean you have to believe it! You don’t have to believe the thoughts running through your head! This pertains to thoughts about yourself (like “I’m not enough”) as well as  thoughts about others and the world. If you’re not choosing your thoughts *on purpose,* especially if they’re…

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If you’re sick and tired of your life and want to make changes, this episode will take you through a process to do that. Show Notes If you are truly committed to changing your ways, this episode is for you! The process of changing our lives is what 12 step recovery is all about. In…

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If you’re confused about the difference between what’s private and what’s secret, this episode will help clear that up. Show Notes In this episode, I clear up the distinction between what’s private and what’s secret. Private matters have to do with  setting healthy boundaries. Secrets have to do with hiding our shame. I use the…

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Natural consequences are the inevitable result of a person’s actions and I explain how enabling gets in the way of this. Show NotesThe natural consequences of negative behavior are typically negative. However, many people buffer, block or filter the consequences of other’s behavior by enabling them. Enabling is when we fix, solve, or make the…

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If you’ve been beating yourself up for years and want to know how to stop, this episode walks you through that. Show NotesIn this episode I teach you the step by step process I used to stop beating myself up. It starts with realizing that s****y things you say to yourself, then realizing, “This is…

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If you’ve been making decisions your whole life based on fear, this episode is for you! Show NotesIf you’d like to stop making your decisions based on fear, this episode will help. I talk about how using the tools of recovery, and especially “acting as if” helps with this. I also explain what’s happening with…

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If you’ve been enabling others addiction and/or dysfunction, this episode will help you stop! Show NotesWhen we enable other people’s addiction and dysfunction, we’re allowing them to NOT face the consequences of their behavior. We serve as a buffer for their difficult behavior so they don’t have to feel those effects. We’re not helping them!…

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