Hi, I'm Barb. I had horrible boundaries too!
I had no boundaries and was constantly people-pleasing others, so if that’s you - I know what it’s like.
You’re constantly worried about what other people are doing (or not doing!) and what other people are thinking of you. Meanwhile, you’re neglecting your own needs and not taking care of yourself! (I know, because what was me!) I still help people, but I’m no longer rescuing them. And I help from a place of abundance, rather than a place of lack - my cup is full AND I'm not looking to get them to like me.
I have healthy boundaries now, which means I take really good care of myself, stay out of situations that drain me, and have plenty of energy to help those who are willing to help themselves. I no longer spend energy helping people who have no interest in helping themselves.
f you’d like to learn how to develop boundaries, stop the people-pleasing and take care of yourself I can help! I provide paid and free boundaries resources. There's a free worksheet and article below, as well as links to a bunch of episodes rom my podcast that are specifically about boundaries. I'm especially gifted at helping others develop healthy boundaries, so if you think you'd like coaching on boundaries you can find out more below about that too. If you want to know more about me, click the link to my bio on the right.
Group Boundaries Coaching
A 3-Month Group Coaching Program to support you in a group setting. It will empower you to set healthy boundaries so you can do what YOU want without feeling guilty!
Private Boundaries Coaching
This 3-month one-on-one private coaching program with Barb will empower you to set healthy boundaries so you can do what YOU want without feeling guilty!
Tips and Scripts for Saying "No" Handout
This handout has tips and scripts for saying no in all kinds of situations - with family, friends or colleagues.
My top 5 podcast episodes for people who need to set boundaries so they can recover from codependence:
But wait! There's more!
I have a whole bunch of other podcast episodes on boundaries. They're so foundational to the work I've done in my own recovery, as well as with all my clients. Click on the title below and it will take you to that episode.
Ep. 35. Boundaries During the Holidays
Ep. 56 How I Got Over My People-Pleasing Ways and You Can Too
Ep. 80 Enjoy the Holidays By Setting Boundaries Now
Ep. 94 How to Strengthen Your Boundaries by Letting Go
Ep. 102 Why Keeping the Focus on Yourself is the Antidote to Codependence
Ep. 107 The Importance of Boundaries in Recovery - Learning from the Outside In
Ep. 113 Boundaries without Consequences Aren't Really Boundaries, They're Hopes & Wishes
Ep. 121. How to Harness the Power of Bookending When Setting Boundaries
Ep. 122. Stop Fixing, Rescuing and Protecting Others and Keep That Energy for Yourself!
Ep. 129. Why People Get Offended When You Set Boundaries with Them
Ep. 138 Setting Boundaries Around Family - When They Love Hiking and You Hate It
Ep. 159 Boundaries in the Bedroom
Some tips to help you recover from codependence
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What people are saying
"Coaching has helped to take care of myself better. I now know what my personal values are and how to set boundaries to protect myself and remain safe."
~ R, Group coaching client
"[I came farthest in the area of] self love. The personal boundaries I've set for myself have finally allowed a connection between my logical positive thoughts about myself and feeling that they are true."
~ H, Group coaching client
"This has been life-changing for me in the best of ways. I realized that I've been trying to set boundaries for years but would always waver and eventually fold because I wasn't sure where I could set them and what was mine and what wasn't... Learning what was mine and what wasn't was the most important thing for me and what allowed me to start setting good boundaries."
~ E, Group coaching client
"I have never seen boundaries presented in such an amazing way. I will be working on it diligently in the next few days and weeks ahead. Love the fences and visuals." ~ Anonymous workshop participant
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