Hi, I'm Barb. I had horrible boundaries too!
I had no boundaries and was constantly people-pleasing others, so if that’s you - I know what it’s like.
You’re constantly worried about what other people are doing (or not doing!) and what other people are thinking of you. Meanwhile, you’re neglecting your own needs and not taking care of yourself! (I know, because what was me!) I still help people, but I’m no longer rescuing them. And I help from a place of abundance, rather than a place of lack - my cup is full AND I'm not looking to get them to like me.
I have healthy boundaries now, which means I take really good care of myself, stay out of situations that drain me, and have plenty of energy to help those who are willing to help themselves. I no longer spend energy helping people who have no interest in helping themselves.
If you’d like to learn how to develop boundaries, stop the people-pleasing and take care of yourself I can help! There's a free worksheet and article below, as well as links to a bunch of episodes of my podcast on boundaries. I'm especially gifted at helping others develop healthy boundaries, so if you think you'd like coaching on boundaries you can find out more below about that too. If you want to know more about me, click the link to my bio on the right.
Group Boundaries Coaching
A 3-Month Group Coaching Program to support you in a group setting. It will empower you to set healthy boundaries so you can do what YOU want without feeling guilty!
Private Boundaries Coaching
This 3-month one-on-one private coaching program with Barb will empower you to set healthy boundaries so you can do what YOU want without feeling guilty!
Tips and Scripts for Saying "No" Handout
This handout has tips and scripts for saying no in all kinds of situations - with family, friends or colleagues.
My top 5 podcast episodes for people who need to set boundaries so they can recover from codependence:
But wait! There's more! I have a whole bunch of other podcast episodes on boundaries. They're so foundational to the work I've done in my own recovery, as well as with all my clients.
Ep. 35. Boundaries During the Holidays
Ep. 56 How I Got Over My People-Pleasing Ways and You Can Too
Ep. 80 Enjoy the Holidays By Setting Boundaries Now
Ep. 94 How to Strengthen Your Boundaries by Letting Go
Ep. 102 Why Keeping the Focus on Yourself is the Antidote to Codependence
Ep. 107 The Importance of Boundaries in Recovery - Learning from the Outside In
Ep. 113 Boundaries without Consequences Aren't Really Boundaries, They're Hopes & Wishes
Some tips to help you recover from codependence
What people are saying
"You gave us a totally new way to see things...You cut to the chase and put up fences. I’m a farmer (was) and fences with gates were sooo powerful. Properties have them too but not only did you draw them you carefully explained how to use them. I learned not just how to keep things out BUT to keep things in.... faith, integrity, time. There were things outside the fences and inside." ~ Anonymous workshop participant
"I am absolutely loooving the metaphors you used, and it's working wonders. Seeing miracles already." ~ L.
"I can’t stop thinking about your amazing [boundaries] webinar!! I learned so much. Turning off the notifications for texting has
really changed my life. I feel much more present and less stressed [having set that boundary]." ~ J.
"I have never seen boundaries presented in such an amazing way. I will be working on it diligently in the next few days and weeks ahead. Love the fences and visuals." ~ Anonymous workshop participant
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