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Why People Pleasing Is Dishonest and Manipulative and Two Tips For How To Change

Sep 22, 2023

Issue 41. September 22, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Alexandra Gorn You may be a people-pleaser if you… The thing about being a people-pleaser is that we’re often dishonest with ourselves and each other. We say yes to things we don’t really want to do. We say no to things…

12 Things I Learned from Recovery About How To Be In Relationships

Sep 15, 2023

Issue 40. September 15, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Jayson Hinrichsen 1. Don’t date for the first year (unless you’re already in a relationship, of course). You’re going to be a completely different person who is much healthier in a year version. You’ll be attracted to healthier people, and they’ll be attracted…

What Shame Is and How to Get Past It

Sep 8, 2023

Issue 39. September 8, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Ave Calvar Many of us in recovery use and abuse substances because of the feeling of shame. The drugs or the alcohol or the food or sex or whatever it is temporarily take away the feeling of shame. The thing about…

How to Reduce Your Chances of Being Triggered: Use Boundaries of Self-Protection

Sep 1, 2023

Issue 38. September 1, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ When I first started learning about boundaries, the idea that boundaries are self-protective was the concept of boundaries that I understood first. That is, they’re about setting limits with other people about what I will and will not tolerate, what’s okay with me…

How I Learned to Form Healthy Boundaries and Became a Boundaries Coach

Aug 25, 2023

Issue 37. August 25, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I learned how to form healthy boundaries within the context of 12-step recovery. I was in a program for people who grew up with relational trauma where you reparent yourselves and use the 12 steps to recover. I did that work in a…

How and Why Surrender Leads to Victory Not Loss

Aug 18, 2023

Issue 36. August 18, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Gursimrat Ganda Surrender doesn’t mean you lose, it means you give up the battle. If you were in an actual battle with live enemies, that might seem like a loss. But when you’re in a battle with addiction, compulsion, chaos, and…

3 Tricks to Start Taking Charge of What’s Going Through Your Head

Aug 11, 2023

Issue 35. August 11, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Just because you think something doesn’t mean it’s true! That’s why you want to talk to yourself more than you listen to yourself. Your negative self-talk is like poison in the well of your mind. When you stop the negative self-talk, that well becomes purified. But if…

Three Boundaries to Get Shit Done and Increase Your Productivity

Aug 4, 2023

Issue 34. August 4, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Jon Tyson Some of the most effective boundaries I’ve used in my life are around my time. I’ve always been a very productive person, but my productivity has sky rocketed since I’ve built healthy boundaries. These include: Using a timer I…

Your Motives Matter for You but Not for Other People

Jul 28, 2023

Issue 33. July 28, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Colen Meg One of the most important questions I’ve learned to ask myself when trying to decide what the right thing is for me to do is, “What are my motives?” I came to see that my motives for helping people…

How to Overcome the Tendency to Make Things Mean Things That They Don’t

Jul 21, 2023

Issue 32. July 21, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Christian Rucinski Have you been making things mean things that they don’t? I used to do that all the time. Typically, I’d decide someone’s behavior I didn’t like meant something about me. Something negative, that is. Then I’d act as if the meaning…