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Feelings Aren’t Facts – What That Means and How To Manage Feelings Vs Facts

Nov 10, 2023

Issue 48. November 10, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Maybe you’ve heard the saying, “Feelings aren’t facts.” Though this is true, they’re still real, and they matter. The point behind this saying is that feelings don’t need to rule your life. Take your feelings into account, but don’t necessarily use them as…

Healthy Recovery IRL – A Case Study in Nurturing, Affirming, and Setting Boundaries

Nov 3, 2023

Issue 47. November 3, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Kyle Nieber One afternoon at the beach nearby, I happened to sit next to a couple of women who were just bitching up a storm. Before recovery, I would have stayed there and been pissed off that these assholes were sitting…

This Mentality Is Very Hard to Spot and Can Ruin Your Life

Oct 27, 2023

Part 5 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 46. October 27, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Marten Newhall The mentality I’m speaking of is referred to as victim mentality. There are a lot of misconceptions about what this is, which means so many people…

How to Make the Dynamic Shift from Victim to Empowerment

Oct 20, 2023

Part 4 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 45. October 20, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ The Drama Triangle is sometimes also referred to as the Victim Triangle. It’s a model of dysfunctional interaction first delineated by Stephen Karpman in 1968. It includes the roles of…

7 Powerful Strategies to Get Out of Victim Mentality

Oct 13, 2023

Part 3 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 44. October 13, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Omid Armin 1. Realize you have victim mentalityThis mentality can be super hard to see because it’s deeply entrenched. Having this mentality  doesn’t mean you’re bad or weak.…

Breaking Free from Victim Mentality: How to Discover Choices and Get Freedom

Oct 6, 2023

Part 2 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 43. October 6, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Fuu If you have the mentality of victimhood, you likely got it from being victimized in some way. For me, it was from growing up with the dysfunction…

Why Coming Out of Victim Mentality Requires Looking at Your Own Behavior

Sep 29, 2023

Part 1 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 42. September 29, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Karobo Mdluli This is part 1 of a 5 part series on what victim mentality is and how to get out of it. In this essay, I’ll share…

Why People Pleasing Is Dishonest and Manipulative and Two Tips For How To Change

Sep 22, 2023

Issue 41. September 22, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Alexandra Gorn You may be a people-pleaser if you… The thing about being a people-pleaser is that we’re often dishonest with ourselves and each other. We say yes to things we don’t really want to do. We say no to things…

12 Things I Learned from Recovery About How To Be In Relationships

Sep 15, 2023

Issue 40. September 15, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Jayson Hinrichsen 1. Don’t date for the first year (unless you’re already in a relationship, of course). You’re going to be a completely different person who is much healthier in a year version. You’ll be attracted to healthier people, and they’ll be attracted…

What Shame Is and How to Get Past It

Sep 8, 2023

Issue 39. September 8, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Ave Calvar Many of us in recovery use and abuse substances because of the feeling of shame. The drugs or the alcohol or the food or sex or whatever it is temporarily take away the feeling of shame. The thing about…