Friday Fragments

Issue 52. December 8, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Fellipe Ditadi On a recent call with a private client, she said, “I am falling in love with myself!” I cannot tell you how unbelievably awesome that makes me feel! My heart is swollen with pride and love that I get…

In 2015, at the age of 52, I hit a codependent bottom and landed in 12-step recovery. This was after 37 years of therapy and tons of other personal development efforts. You name it, I tried it! All those things scratched the surface of the iceberg of my life, whereas 12-step recovery melted the iceberg. By far…

Issue 51. December 1, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Ozkan Guner The concept of willingness is something we talk about frequently in recovery. We say if you’re willing, you can make it through just about anything.” But just because you’re willing to do something doesn’t mean you want to do that thing. I am…

Issue 50. November 24, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Vanessa Kintaudi This is, by far, the most important thing that enabled me to go from having no boundaries for 50-something years to building healthy boundaries: I came to care more about what *I* think of me than what other people…

Issue 49. November 17, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Adi Goldstein If you’re the kind of person who is always looking for someone to blame, welcome to the club! That was me. But I didn’t even realize that was what I was doing until I got into recovery. I’ve come…

Issue 48. November 10, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Maybe you’ve heard the saying, “Feelings aren’t facts.” Though this is true, they’re still real, and they matter. The point behind this saying is that feelings don’t need to rule your life. Take your feelings into account, but don’t necessarily use them as…

Issue 47. November 3, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Kyle Nieber One afternoon at the beach nearby, I happened to sit next to a couple of women who were just bitching up a storm. Before recovery, I would have stayed there and been pissed off that these assholes were sitting…

Part 5 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 46. October 27, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Marten Newhall The mentality I’m speaking of is referred to as victim mentality. There are a lot of misconceptions about what this is, which means so many people…

Part 4 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 45. October 20, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ The Drama Triangle is sometimes also referred to as the Victim Triangle. It’s a model of dysfunctional interaction first delineated by Stephen Karpman in 1968. It includes the roles of…

Part 3 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 44. October 13, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Omid Armin 1. Realize you have victim mentalityThis mentality can be super hard to see because it’s deeply entrenched. Having this mentality  doesn’t mean you’re bad or weak.…