Friday Fragments

Part 2 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 43. October 6, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Fuu If you have the mentality of victimhood, you likely got it from being victimized in some way. For me, it was from growing up with the dysfunction…

Part 1 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 42. September 29, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Karobo Mdluli This is part 1 of a 5 part series on what victim mentality is and how to get out of it. In this essay, I’ll share…

Issue 41. September 22, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Alexandra Gorn You may be a people-pleaser if you… The thing about being a people-pleaser is that we’re often dishonest with ourselves and each other. We say yes to things we don’t really want to do. We say no to things…

Issue 40. September 15, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Jayson Hinrichsen 1. Don’t date for the first year (unless you’re already in a relationship, of course). You’re going to be a completely different person who is much healthier in a year version. You’ll be attracted to healthier people, and they’ll be attracted…

Issue 39. September 8, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Ave Calvar Many of us in recovery use and abuse substances because of the feeling of shame. The drugs or the alcohol or the food or sex or whatever it is temporarily take away the feeling of shame. The thing about…

Issue 38. September 1, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ When I first started learning about boundaries, the idea that boundaries are self-protective was the concept of boundaries that I understood first. That is, they’re about setting limits with other people about what I will and will not tolerate, what’s okay with me…

Issue 37. August 25, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I learned how to form healthy boundaries within the context of 12-step recovery. I was in a program for people who grew up with relational trauma where you reparent yourselves and use the 12 steps to recover. I did that work in a…

Issue 36. August 18, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Gursimrat Ganda Surrender doesn’t mean you lose, it means you give up the battle. If you were in an actual battle with live enemies, that might seem like a loss. But when you’re in a battle with addiction, compulsion, chaos, and…

Issue 35. August 11, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Just because you think something doesn’t mean it’s true! That’s why you want to talk to yourself more than you listen to yourself. Your negative self-talk is like poison in the well of your mind. When you stop the negative self-talk, that well becomes purified. But if…

Issue 34. August 4, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Jon Tyson Some of the most effective boundaries I’ve used in my life are around my time. I’ve always been a very productive person, but my productivity has sky rocketed since I’ve built healthy boundaries. These include: Using a timer I…