Fragmented to Whole
Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
This podcast can help you go from fragmented to whole. The title of the podcast comes from my journey of recovery in 12 step programs where I came in feeling fragmented and now I AM WHOLE. I talk about how that happened, and many of the lessons I've learned in recovery. I cover such topics as learning acceptance, overcoming unrealistic expectations, intimacy, forgiveness and boundaries.
All episodes are 20 minutes or less, most are less than 15. The first episode is my story in brief so you'll hear about the kind of profound life changes that I experienced in 12-step recovery. Other episodes cover specific topics such as Acceptance, Victim Mentality, Overcoming Negative Thought Loops, etc. You don't have to be in recovery to benefit from it though!
One last (very important) thing. I don't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though I'm a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, I cannot speak them. Take what you want and leave the rest.
Listen to Fragmented to Whole:Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
82: You Don’t Have to Believe Your Thoughts
Show Notes Just because you think something, doesn’t mean you have to believe it! You don’t have to believe the thoughts running through your head! This pertains to thoughts about yourself (like “I’m not enough”) as well as thoughts about others and the world. If you’re not choosing your thoughts *on purpose,* especially if they’re…
75: Becoming Entirely Ready to Change Your Life
If you’re sick and tired of your life and want to make changes, this episode will take you through a process to do that. Show Notes If you are truly committed to changing your ways, this episode is for you! The process of changing our lives is what 12 step recovery is all about. In…
74: Privacy vs. Secrecy
If you’re confused about the difference between what’s private and what’s secret, this episode will help clear that up. Show Notes In this episode, I clear up the distinction between what’s private and what’s secret. Private matters have to do with setting healthy boundaries. Secrets have to do with hiding our shame. I use the…
73: Understanding Natural Consequences
Natural consequences are the inevitable result of a person’s actions and I explain how enabling gets in the way of this. Show NotesThe natural consequences of negative behavior are typically negative. However, many people buffer, block or filter the consequences of other’s behavior by enabling them. Enabling is when we fix, solve, or make the…
72: Stop Beating Yourself Up!
If you’ve been beating yourself up for years and want to know how to stop, this episode walks you through that. Show NotesIn this episode I teach you the step by step process I used to stop beating myself up. It starts with realizing that s****y things you say to yourself, then realizing, “This is…
71: Non-Fear-Based Decision-Making
If you’ve been making decisions your whole life based on fear, this episode is for you! Show NotesIf you’d like to stop making your decisions based on fear, this episode will help. I talk about how using the tools of recovery, and especially “acting as if” helps with this. I also explain what’s happening with…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 70: Top Apps to Stay Happy, Joyous and Free Part II
If you need help to get and keep your life manageable and to maintain your serenity, this podcast will help! This is the second of a 2 part series. Make sure you listen to Episode 69 first. Show NotesMost people who come to recovery have chaotic lives and need all the help we can get…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 69: Top Apps to Keep You Happy, Joyous and Free
If you need help to get and keep your life manageable and to maintain your serenity, this podcast will help! Show NotesMost people who come to recovery have chaotic lives and need all the help we can get to manage our lives. Using smart phone apps can be incredibly helpful in staying in touch with…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 68: How to Stop Enabling Other People’s Dysfunctional Behavior
If you’ve been enabling others addiction and/or dysfunction, this episode will help you stop! Show NotesWhen we enable other people’s addiction and dysfunction, we’re allowing them to NOT face the consequences of their behavior. We serve as a buffer for their difficult behavior so they don’t have to feel those effects. We’re not helping them!…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 67: Why We Say, “The Truth Shall Set You Free”
This episode is for those who used to lie and hide, who are the only ones who can understand what it means to be set free by the truth. Show NotesIf you’ve lied, and withheld information, and kept things from people your whole life like I did, you know what a prison that can be.…
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