Fragmented to Whole

Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

This podcast can help you go from fragmented to whole. The title of the podcast comes from my journey of recovery in 12 step programs where I came in feeling fragmented and now I AM WHOLE. I talk about how that happened, and many of the lessons I've learned in recovery. I cover such topics as learning acceptance, overcoming unrealistic expectations, intimacy, forgiveness and boundaries.

All episodes are 20 minutes or less, most are less than 15. The first episode is my story in brief so you'll hear about the kind of profound life changes that I experienced in 12-step recovery. Other episodes cover specific topics such as Acceptance, Victim Mentality, Overcoming Negative Thought Loops, etc. You don't have to be in recovery to benefit from it though!

One last (very important) thing. I don't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though I'm a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, I cannot speak them. Take what you want and leave the rest.

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Episode 135: Go From Envy to Inspiration With One Simple Mind Shift

The idea that we should envy someone rather than be inspired by them is based on the notion that we can’t have what they have because what is possible for them must not be possible for us. That’s why episode 135 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about going from envy to inspiration with…

Episode 134: You Spot it, You Got It- Psychological Projection in 12 Step Recovery

Oftentimes, the things that you notice or that bother you in others are a reflection of a trait, habit, or behavior that you have yourself and don’t particularly like.  That’s why episode 134 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about psychological projection in 12-step recovery!  In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast,…

Episode 133: I Got Over My Fears Because Courage is Contagious

I always thought courage meant that you had no fear but rather, it’s the ability to take action in the face of fear. That’s why episode 133 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how I got over my fears because courage is contagious!  In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m…

Episode 132: Here’s How to Overcome Disappointment So That You Can Have Peace

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of accepting what you cannot control and actionable steps you can take right now to overcome disappointment by finding the positives in every situation.  Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: The connection between acceptance and disappointment…

Episode 131: Let Go of Your Expectations of Others and Meet Your Own Needs

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of meeting your own needs instead of looking outside of yourself and actionable steps you can take right now to let go of your expectations of others.  Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include: Codependents tend to…

Episode 130: Guest Episode – Robin from Workit Health

Today’s guest is Robin McIntosh, Co-CEO & Co-Founder of Workit Health which provides online drug and alcohol treatment with medication. Robin shares of her idyllic childhood that was ruptured with tragedy. She learned of the generational abuse of alcohol in her family at that time, then later because a polysubstance user who relapsed repeatedly. When…

Episode 129: Why People Get Offended When You Set Boundaries with Them

I share a couple of stories to illustrate how people get offended when someone sets a boundary with them, and how it (often) is because they don’t have healthy boundaries themselves. You’ll also learn how it’s up to you where and when you want to set boundaries, and whether you want to explain about your…

Episode 128: Are You a Peach or a Pear? Not Everyone Is Going to Like You

Coming to understand that we are flawesome (flawed + awesome) and that not everyone is going to like us is a GAME CHANGER for many of us in recovery! When we realize that we’re fine just as we are, and some people are just never gonna like us, life gets easier. I give a metaphor…

Episode 127: You Don’t Have to Believe the Stories Going through Your Head

We often make up stories about ourselves, others and the world that are not based in fact and truth. Yet we act as if they are and live with the consequences of believing these b.s. stories! You don’t have to life like that! You’ll hear a couple of stories about what these stories can look…

Episode 126: How Understanding Your Part in Things Brings You Out of Victim Mentality.

I explore how looking for “your part in things” (as taught in step 4) shows us where we’ve been doing things that have contributed to the difficulties in our lives. This gives us options for how to do things differently. This brings us out of victim mentality because we now see we have choices. those…

Episode 125: Top 12 Lessons on Dating and Relationships from 12-Step Recovery

Here are 12 lessons from 12-step recovery that can be applied to dating and relationships to improve them. Some of the lessons are from recovery slogans, and others are from common practices in recovery. The lessons I share are these:  Don’t date for the first year Be real When someone tells you who they are,…

Episode 124: Why and How To Stop Falling In Love With People’s Potential

If you’ve fallen in love with someone else’s potential, you know that it’s a potentially endless drain on your energy. If this is a pattern for you, there’s hope! You’ll learn why we do this and how to stop – which means learning to keep the focus on yourself so you can live up to…

What listeners are saying

"Barb, it's clear that you're speaking from your lived experience, and what you talk about is beyond the rooms of recovery. You actually operationalize recovery."

- C

"Barb. My goodness. I just finished your [One Day at a Time] podcast. It was incredible. Thank you....

So I've listened to your first podcast. I was connected to what you said especially how your life has changed.  PAUSE, which I've learned about and love. And flawsome. Amen...Thanks so much. You give hope. It was powerful...

Just listened to #2 Acceptance. Gonna have to listen again. It was powerful. What really comes across is your sincerity. Thanks."

- K

"Hey! Finally started listening  to your podcast. It’s really good.  I listen to over 1000 podcast probably in the past two years. Your shit is official. You’re totally Flawsome.  You’re like a dynamic special ops recovery person. You're totally sensitive and have the [anonymous program]  active listening and true compassion characteristics. Combined with a little bit of adorable cheesiness (e.g. Flawsome). But then also like a tough guy old timer that’s gruff and doesn’t take shit from people."

- J

"I'm a minute and 22 seconds into your episode on Acceptance... I still have these [negative] thoughts...The solution: growth mindset and surrounding myself with this kind of information...thank you for doing this, definitely helps motivate me..."

- E

"Your podcast was a delight to listen to. Authenticity, sincerity starts within and re-parenting oneself with gentleness, humor, love and respect are the tools that fuels the process."

- A

"Full of useful, helpful guidance!!!! So, I say thank you for your efforts! It was not preachy at all - and I guard against 'preachiness.' ...Thank you for your efforts Barb."

- A.C

"I play [your podcasts] for people when I give them rides home from meetings. They find them awesome as I do...I am hoping to begin using your podcasts in groups at work - short enough to hold people's attention and wonderful topics that all can benefit from as we try to bring healing and freedom from suffering into the world...you are a delight and a noble soul. Thank you. Grateful for your commitment to help heal our planet."

- R

"If I had to describe it....I bathed in episodes 1-3 this morning and I feel much more prepared to engage in the tasks that will bring me success...thank you."

- V

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