Fragmented to Whole:
Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery Podcast
Tired of feeling fragmented and overwhelmed? Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12-Step Recovery is your guide to creating a life of wholeness, authenticity, and healthy boundaries. Join Barb Nangle, a boundaries coach and speaker, as she shares raw and honest insights from her own journey and the principles of 12-step recovery. Discover how to set boundaries without guilt or shame, overcome people-pleasing tendencies, manage your emotions effectively, cultivate a stronger sense of self, and build healthier relationships. Barb's approach is raw, honest, and sometimes a little bit (okay, a lot) sweary.
Barb doesn't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though she's a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, she cannot speak for them. If you're ready for real talk and practical tools for transformation, tune in!
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Ep. 338: Why Avoiding Discomfort Keeps You Stuck and How to Get Unstuck
Send us a text In this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m exploring what actually shifts when emotional safety stops cIn this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m unpacking a topic that sits at the core of emotional healing and change: discomfort. Not all discomfort is the same, and…
Ep. 337: How Internal Safety Changes Your Emotional World
Send us a text In this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m exploring what actually shifts when emotional safety stops coming from outside of you and starts being built internally. We talk about how our relationship with emotions changes when we stop using them as evidence about other people and start listening…
Ep. 336: Learn to Tolerate Ease: How Compassion Softened What Pressure Never Could
Send us a text In this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a deeply personal realization about how long I treated myself like a project instead of a person, and how learning to tolerate ease required far more courage than pushing ever did. This episode isn’t about productivity, optimization, or mindset.…
Ep. 335: The Art of Listening: How to Break Free from Chronic Conflict Loops
Send us a text In this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about why so many couples get stuck having the same arguments over and over, and how real listening isn’t about communication techniques, but about the assumptions we bring into the conversation before we ever open our mouths. This episode…
Ep. 334: How to Change Your Love Life by Becoming Emotionally Available
Send us a text In this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a powerful realization from my own recovery journey: the pattern of emotionally unavailable partners wasn’t just about who I was choosing, it was about my own emotional availability. For years, I believed I was unlucky in love. Through ACA…
Ep. 333: How Boundaries Create Secure Attachment in Romantic Relationships
Send us a text In this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m exploring attachment from a different angle and sharing how boundaries and recovery can actually create secure attachment, even if you didn’t grow up with it. Instead of focusing on attachment labels, we look at how internal safety, self-trust, and boundaries change the…
Ep. 332: Why Knowing Better Isn’t Enough and How to Train Your Nervous System Instead
Send us a text In this week’s episode 332 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m discussing something I often observe, especially during family gatherings: knowing your boundaries, understanding your patterns, and gaining valuable insight, yet still getting triggered. In this episode, I explain why that happens, why it’s not a failure, and what actually…
Ep. 331: The Hidden Rules You Learned Growing Up and How to Rewrite Them
Send us a text In this week’s episode 331 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking about the invisible, unspoken rules you absorbed growing up — the ones you never agreed to, yet have been shaping your entire emotional life. I break down how these hidden rules get installed in childhood, how they operate…
Ep. 330: Lost in Serenity with Guest Renee N.
Send us a text In this week’s episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m talking with my long-time recovery friend, Renee N., and her story is absolutely incredible. She grew up in chaos — emotional abuse, addiction, violence, and zero safety — and spent decades dissociated and trying to survive. Recovery changed everything. Renee…
Ep. 329: Healing Old Wounds: How Boundaries Helped Me Reconnect With Someone I Love
Old family dynamics can feel impossible to change, especially when you’ve spent a lifetime carrying wounds that never had the chance to heal. For years, my relationship with someone I love was distant, tense, and full of unspoken history. I never imagined that could shift… until it did. This week on the Fragmented to Whole…
Ep. 328: How Manipulation Shows Up During the Holidays and How to Get Away from It
Manipulation is often sneaky, sometimes unintentional, and rooted in fear (of abandonment, disapproval, rejection). For those in recovery, recognizing past manipulative habits—learned as dysfunctional ways to get needs met—is key. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, we break down how manipulation is activated during the holidays, why people-pleasing IS a form of…
Ep. 327: Five Ways to Keep the Focus on You to Create Internal Safety
Send us a text The constant focus on things and people outside of your control is draining. I spent too many years of my life in this vicious cycle of external focus and validation, leaving me feeling like a fragmented, boundaryless version of myself. But all that changed with recovery. This week on the Fragmented…
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"Barb, it's clear that you're speaking from your lived experience, and what you talk about is beyond the rooms of recovery. You actually operationalize recovery."
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"Your podcast was a delight to listen to. Authenticity, sincerity starts within and re-parenting oneself with gentleness, humor, love and respect are the tools that fuels the process."
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"Thank you, Barb! Listening to your podcast gave me hope that you could help me.
Framing everything through the lens of “boundaries” made sense to me. Something “clicked.” I realized many of my own struggles – maybe all of them – could be seen through the same lens. I also felt – after bingeing your podcasts – that I already knew you and that you were a straight shooter. You experienced many of the challenges that I was facing, and I greatly appreciated your willingness to share openly and honestly. And I was so encouraged to hear you talk about how much better your life is after starting your own recovery journey." ~ K
