Fragmented to Whole

Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

This podcast can help you go from fragmented to whole. The title of the podcast comes from my journey of recovery in 12 step programs where I came in feeling fragmented and now I AM WHOLE. I talk about how that happened, and many of the lessons I've learned in recovery. I cover such topics as learning acceptance, overcoming unrealistic expectations, intimacy, forgiveness and boundaries.

All episodes are 20 minutes or less, most are less than 15. The first episode is my story in brief so you'll hear about the kind of profound life changes that I experienced in 12-step recovery. Other episodes cover specific topics such as Acceptance, Victim Mentality, Overcoming Negative Thought Loops, etc. You don't have to be in recovery to benefit from it though!

One last (very important) thing. I don't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though I'm a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, I cannot speak them. Take what you want and leave the rest.

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Ep 194 – How to Know if You’re an Adult Child- Part 2: The Other Laundry List

Although ACA started as Adult Children of Alcoholics, it is now referred to as Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families because whether your parents were addicts, alcoholics, chronically ill, mentally ill, militaristic, super religious, etc. any kind of family dysfunction can lead to the same set of traits. This week’s episode 194 of the…

Ep 193 – How to Know if You’re an Adult Child- Part 1: The Laundry List

A huge part of my recovery has been coming out of denial and part of my denial journey is coming to realize that I am what’s called an Adult Child and then, once I realized that – that more traits of an adult child apply to me than I once believed. This week’s episode 193…

Ep 192 – My CEO Retreat Failed, But I Still Had a Great Day Thanks to Recovery

Earlier this month, I set aside one day where I planned to take myself on a CEO retreat and do a deep dive into a project for my business. When the day came, it was an absolute fail and yet, my life wasn’t ruined because of it. This week’s episode 192 of the Fragmented to…

Ep 191 – How I Came Out of Denial- My ACA Story

I typically record myself when I share in meetings so I can listen back and see how things have changed – how my perspective has changed and how I’ve grown as a person. I’ve never considered sharing these recordings on the podcast until a fellow in recovery suggested the idea to me and I thought,…

Ep 190 – Participate in Your Own Recovery with Dan Reeves 

You can lie, pretend, and go through the motions for so long but until you make the decision to participate in your own recovery, you’re not going to see the life changes you’re looking for. This week’s episode 190 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about participating in your own recovery! Support the show…

Ep 189 – How to Hold Onto Your Own Integrity-Set Boundaries Using “Blurry Truth” 

Through recovery, we learn to tell the truth in order to live with integrity but sometimes, the full truth is not anyone else’s business. That’s where what I call the “blurry truth” comes into play. This week’s episode 189 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to hold onto your own integrity by…

Ep 188 – Dysfunctional vs. Functional Tools- How to Stop Making Things Worse! 

I realized recently that before recovery I had a set of dysfunctional tools that actually made my life worse and through recovery, I was able to replace those tools with functional ones make things better. This week’s episode 188 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about dysfunctional vs functional tools & how to stop…

Ep 187 – 41 Things I Didn’t Know Before Recovery That Completely Changed My Life 

I spent so much of my life searching for something and didn’t know what I was searching for until I found it in recovery. That’s right, these realizations never once came up in the 37 years of therapy, self-help, and self-discovery work I did before going into recovery. And THAT is why carrying the message…

Ep 186 – The Origins and Effects of Adult Child Trauma Part 2

When we’re little, we don’t know anything different than how we’ve been raised so for a lot of us, until we grow up and get into 12-step recovery programs, we don’t understand that what we endured as children was abusive and dysfunctional. Until we realize this and no longer adhere to the rigid beliefs we…

Ep 185 – The Origins and Effects of Adult Child Trauma Part 1

I often get asked how we all got our adult child attachment and adult child trauma issues and the short answer is from not having our needs met as a child or what I used to think of as the absence of “good things” happening for me in my childhood. This can be anything from…

Ep 184 – If You NEED People to Need YOU, You’re Codependent

Codependency doesn’t always exist as your need for someone else to do something for you, but as you subconsciously needing someone else to need YOU in order to feel worthy and valuable. This week’s episode 184 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I am sharing the realization I had myself that if you need people…

Ep 183 – Stop Gossiping About Yourself 

Typically we think about gossiping as something we do about other people, however, I realized that some of the behaviors I’ve engaged in in the past might be considered gossiping about myself. In this week’s episode 183 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing that means (AND telling you to stop gossiping about yourself!).…

What listeners are saying

"Barb, it's clear that you're speaking from your lived experience, and what you talk about is beyond the rooms of recovery. You actually operationalize recovery."

- C

"Barb. My goodness. I just finished your [One Day at a Time] podcast. It was incredible. Thank you....

So I've listened to your first podcast. I was connected to what you said especially how your life has changed.  PAUSE, which I've learned about and love. And flawsome. Amen...Thanks so much. You give hope. It was powerful...

Just listened to #2 Acceptance. Gonna have to listen again. It was powerful. What really comes across is your sincerity. Thanks."

- K

"Hey! Finally started listening  to your podcast. It’s really good.  I listen to over 1000 podcast probably in the past two years. Your shit is official. You’re totally Flawsome.  You’re like a dynamic special ops recovery person. You're totally sensitive and have the [anonymous program]  active listening and true compassion characteristics. Combined with a little bit of adorable cheesiness (e.g. Flawsome). But then also like a tough guy old timer that’s gruff and doesn’t take shit from people."

- J

"I'm a minute and 22 seconds into your episode on Acceptance... I still have these [negative] thoughts...The solution: growth mindset and surrounding myself with this kind of information...thank you for doing this, definitely helps motivate me..."

- E

"Your podcast was a delight to listen to. Authenticity, sincerity starts within and re-parenting oneself with gentleness, humor, love and respect are the tools that fuels the process."

- A

"Full of useful, helpful guidance!!!! So, I say thank you for your efforts! It was not preachy at all - and I guard against 'preachiness.' ...Thank you for your efforts Barb."

- A.C

"I play [your podcasts] for people when I give them rides home from meetings. They find them awesome as I do...I am hoping to begin using your podcasts in groups at work - short enough to hold people's attention and wonderful topics that all can benefit from as we try to bring healing and freedom from suffering into the are a delight and a noble soul. Thank you. Grateful for your commitment to help heal our planet."

- R

"If I had to describe it....I bathed in episodes 1-3 this morning and I feel much more prepared to engage in the tasks that will bring me success...thank you."

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