Fragmented to Whole

Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

This podcast can help you go from fragmented to whole. The title of the podcast comes from my journey of recovery in 12 step programs where I came in feeling fragmented and now I AM WHOLE. I talk about how that happened, and many of the lessons I've learned in recovery. I cover such topics as learning acceptance, overcoming unrealistic expectations, intimacy, forgiveness and boundaries.

All episodes are 20 minutes or less, most are less than 15. The first episode is my story in brief so you'll hear about the kind of profound life changes that I experienced in 12-step recovery. Other episodes cover specific topics such as Acceptance, Victim Mentality, Overcoming Negative Thought Loops, etc. You don't have to be in recovery to benefit from it though!

One last (very important) thing. I don't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though I'm a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, I cannot speak them. Take what you want and leave the rest.

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Ep 253 – Healing Through Step 5- Unveiling Family Secrets and Finding Freedom

Traditionally, step 5 in 12-step recovery is where we admit to God, to ourselves, and to another person the exact nature of our own wrongs. The idea is that we get to take a look at the things we’ve been doing in our lives that are creating chaos, dysfunction and wreckage and acknowledge them. In…

Ep 252 – Spillin’ the Tea on My Family Secrets- This is How Family Dysfunction Gets Passed Down- Part 2

Through recovery, I have radically changed my ways, healed my trauma, and changed my deeply entrenched patterns of behavior. By sharing my and my family’s secrets, I hope to show that dysfunction doesn’t always look the way you might think so that you might recognize patterns of your own dysfunction and begin to heal in…

Ep 251 – Spillin’ the Tea on My Family Secrets- This is How Family Dysfunction Gets Passed Down- Part 1

We often say in recovery, “You’re as sick as your secrets.” That being said, I’ve decided to share my family’s secrets (as well as some of my own) as part of my journey to heal and to identify with other people so they know they’re not alone. This week on episode 251 of the Fragmented…

Ep 250 – Healing The Root Causes of Addiction with Arlina Allen

There is more to addiction than the need to get drunk or high. And when Arlina Allen realized this and began to uncover the root causes of her addiction, it was then that she was able to shed the layers of her trauma and begin to heal. This week’s episode 250 of the Fragmented to…

Ep 249 – How a Simple Shift in Language Can Change Your Life

Whenever I hear clients say something along the lines of “I have to…” I like to reframe their sentence to instead say, ‘I get to…” or “I could do…”. The language change is so small, and yet the conceptual change is HUGE. This week’s episode 249 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about choosing freedom: how a simple shift in…

Ep 248 – How I Heal My Inner Teenager: Unveiling the Magic of Reparenting

The reparenting journey that I’ve been on for the last year has been nothing short of miraculous. I cannot tell you the level of healing I’ve achieved through my reparenting work. I hope that by sharing my journey and process on the podcast, other people can also find some healing. This week’s episode 248 of…

Ep 247 – 11 Steps for How to Build Your Own Personalized Boundary System Part 2

Last week, I shared the first half of the steps I take all of my boundary clients through to build their personalized boundary system. Today, I’ll be sharing the final half of the steps so that you can create a boundary system that works for you! This week’s episode 247 of the Fragmented to Whole…

Ep 246 – 11 Steps for How to Build Your Own Personalized Boundary System Part 1

I take all of my boundaries clients through a series of steps to build their personalized boundary system and I wanted to share these steps with you today. This week’s episode 246 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 1 of the steps to build your own personalized boundary system! Support the show by…

Ep 245 – How to Stop the Self-Sabotage and Get Over Your Fear of Abandonment

Sometimes people refer to self-sabotage as things like shooting themselves in the foot, not showing up for themselves, or not following through for themselves. This is incredibly common for those of us in recovery. ACA has taught me that another way to refer to self-sabotage is to call it self-abandonment. And this makes sense because…

Ep 244 – How to Effectively Communicate When Someone Says, ‘You Don’t Care About Me’

When someone says something like ‘You don’t care about me’ to you and you defend it, you’re the one declaring war against them. How you respond in these scenarios determines whether you’re entering into a conflict or a conversation. This week’s episode 244 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to effectively communicate…

Ep 243 – How I Went from Trauma Response to Miraculous Recovery- A Story of Driving and Toenails

A couple of instances have come up in my life recently where I realized how far I have come since recovery. Scenarios that used to trigger an emotional trauma response are replaced with clarity and calmness. And in times like this, I become super appreciative of my recovery. This week’s episode 243 of the Fragmented…

Ep 242 – How to Stop Trusting Untrustworthy People and Start Trusting Yourself

One of the many revelations I had while in recovery is that I had been trusting untrustworthy people my entire life. These people had proven to me time and time again that they were not to be trusted and when they broke my trust I would inevitably get upset over it. When I eventually learned…

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"Barb, it's clear that you're speaking from your lived experience, and what you talk about is beyond the rooms of recovery. You actually operationalize recovery."

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"Thank you, Barb! Listening to your podcast gave me hope that you could help me.

Framing everything through the lens of “boundaries” made sense to me. Something “clicked.” I realized many of my own struggles – maybe all of them – could be seen through the same lens. I also felt – after bingeing your podcasts – that I already knew you and that you were a straight shooter. You experienced many of the challenges that I was facing, and I greatly appreciated your willingness to share openly and honestly. And I was so encouraged to hear you talk about how much better your life is after starting your own recovery journey." ~ K

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