Fragmented to Whole

Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

This podcast can help you go from fragmented to whole. The title of the podcast comes from my journey of recovery in 12 step programs where I came in feeling fragmented and now I AM WHOLE. I talk about how that happened, and many of the lessons I've learned in recovery. I cover such topics as learning acceptance, overcoming unrealistic expectations, intimacy, forgiveness and boundaries.

All episodes are 20 minutes or less, most are less than 15. The first episode is my story in brief so you'll hear about the kind of profound life changes that I experienced in 12-step recovery. Other episodes cover specific topics such as Acceptance, Victim Mentality, Overcoming Negative Thought Loops, etc. You don't have to be in recovery to benefit from it though!

One last (very important) thing. I don't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though I'm a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, I cannot speak them. Take what you want and leave the rest.

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Fragmented to Whole Podcast 63: Reading People’s Minds Doesn’t Work!

If you’ve been expecting other people to read your mind, you might find this episode helpful! Show NotesI realized early in recovery that I’d been expecting other people to read my mind. I came to understand, with the help of some of my fellows in recovery, that this was because that’s how I thought it…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 62: GET To vs. HAVE To

Learn how to change your perspective so that your new behaviors are seen as a privilege instead of a burden. Show NotesThe recovery process, just as any process of personal growth, is in large part one of changing perspective. In this episode I cover the perspective shift where we move from “I HAVE to _”…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 61: Willingness to Change vs. Wanting to Change

You don’t have to want to make changes, but you do need to be willing which you’ll learn about here. Show NotesFor anyone who is trying to grow and change, including those in recovery, willingness is key. If you’re willing to make changes, even if you’d don’t really want to, that can be enough. Learn…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 60: Tips and Scripts for Saying “No”

If you have trouble saying “no” this episode is for you! Show NotesI share several tips for how to say no. I also share several scripts – specific words and phrases you can use in various situations to set boundaries with others. These include scripts for saying “no” to friends, family, bosses and clients.

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 59: Making Things Mean Things That They Don’t

If you interpret other people’s actions as against you all the time, this episode might challenge your thinking. Show NotesIf you decide that things that happen around you almost always mean something negative, you might be “making things mean things that they don’t.” In this episode I give a really good example of how I…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 58: End the Chaos!

The opposite of chaos is predictability, and this episode talks about how to create more predictability in your life. Show NotesIf you’ve lived a life of chaos and want that to end, this episode is for you! In it you’ll learn how to slowly begin to put some structure in your life. This will give…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 57: Turn Off the Spigot of Negativity and Purify the Well of Your Mind

Learn how to get rid of the negative audio playing in the background of your mind, it’s poisoning your mind! Show NotesWhen negative thoughts continually run through our minds it’s like poison in a well. It’s impossible to love yourself when the well of your mind is full of poison. Stopping the negative thoughts helps…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 56: How I Got Over People-Pleasing and You Can Too!

If you are tired of your people-pleasing ways, this episode is for you! Show NotesI didn’t even know I was a people-pleaser, I thought I was nice. It turns out people-pleasing isn’t nice, it’s dishonest and manipulative. Ugh! But there’s hope! I talk about how I got over my people-pleasing ways and you can too.…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 55: Stop Hiding

If you feel like you have to hide who you really are to be accepted, this episode is for you!We hide by isolating and telling lies. We’re afraid to show our flaws. But being flawed is just part of being human. Once you can accept this in yourself, it’s easier to accept it in others…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 54: Improve Your Relationships

This episode covers 9 rules for improving your relationships. Show NotesEveryone wants their relationships to be a safe harbor. To help you achieve that, I borrow nine rules from David J. Lieberman as a way to structure this episode. I then share what I’ve learned about each rule from my recovery to illustrate them. The…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 53: Focus on What You CAN Control

This episode adapts Stephen Covey’s Circle of Concern and Circle of Control concepts to the COVID-19 situation to help us focus on what we can control. Show NotesControl is an issue for people in recovery, and right now it’s probably a concern for just about everyone given COVID-19. Covey’s model of Circle of Concern vs.…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 52: Trauma Response Prevention During COVID-19

This episode covers the preconditions for trauma and the strategies to prevent or at least reduce the impact of trauma from the pandemic and quarantine. Show NotesThere are a number of predictable conditions that lead to trauma. These include unpredictability, immobility, loss of connection, loss of a sense of safety and others. These can be…

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