Fragmented to Whole

Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

This podcast can help you go from fragmented to whole. The title of the podcast comes from my journey of recovery in 12 step programs where I came in feeling fragmented and now I AM WHOLE. I talk about how that happened, and many of the lessons I've learned in recovery. I cover such topics as learning acceptance, overcoming unrealistic expectations, intimacy, forgiveness and boundaries.

All episodes are 20 minutes or less, most are less than 15. The first episode is my story in brief so you'll hear about the kind of profound life changes that I experienced in 12-step recovery. Other episodes cover specific topics such as Acceptance, Victim Mentality, Overcoming Negative Thought Loops, etc. You don't have to be in recovery to benefit from it though!

One last (very important) thing. I don't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though I'm a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, I cannot speak them. Take what you want and leave the rest.

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Fragmented to Whole Podcast 37: Fail Till You Succeed

“Fail till you succeed” is the formula for all success throughout time and this episode explains why this is so. Show NotesThis episode will be particularly helpful to those who have beaten themselves up for years, and who think they will never succeed at anything. Many of us suffer from the belief that those who…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 36: Your Rights as a Person in Recovery

You have the right to live your own life the way you want without anyone else’s approval – this episode lists that and many of your other rights. Show NotesMany people in recovery don’t even realize that they GET TO think their own thoughts, make their own decisions and focus on their own lives and…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 35: Boundaries During the Holidays

Setting boundaries around what we really want allows us to truly enjoy the holidays, here’s how. Show NotesBoundaries help us enjoy our loved ones and our time, and they reduce stress and overwhelm. To have boundaries means to live intentionally. This episode will help you set boundaries to more authentically connect with others so you’re…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 34: Anything Mentionable Is Manageable

All human experiences are mentionable, and anything mentionable is manageable (so says Mr. Rogers). Show NotesIf your life is unmanageable, this episode gives examples of getting to a life that’s manageable. Inspired by the new Mr. Rogers movie, this episode also talks about how things we may have been taught were “unmentionable” actually are mentionable.…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 33: Restored to Clarity

Recovery can restore us to clarity – clarity of thinking, clarity about the level of dysfunction in our lives, as well as about how we ourselves contributed to that dysfunction. Show NotesIf your thinking is clouded and chaotic, your boundaries are a mess, you want everyone else and the world around you to change, perhaps…

Bonus Episode #2: Affirmations for Addicts

If you need help to change the negative self talk in your head, this episode is for you. It’s just affirmations – no intro, not outro, just affirmations. Listen once and make note of the affirmations that resonate best with you, or listen repeatedly to them all. What is Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 32: Freedom of Choice

Choice is the opposite of compulsion, obsession and addiction and this episode will help you understand how to get the freedom of choice. Show NotesOne of the greatest gifts of recovery is freedom of choice – the freedom choose what we do and do not want to think, believe and do. Before recovery, I didn’t…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 31: Overcoming Unrealistic Expectations

Learn how to overcome unrealistic expectations so you can let go of resentments. Show NotesI talk about how unrealistic expectations made my life unmanageable and was one of my worst defects of character, and how I learned to let them go. This not only helped me let go of resents from the past, but prevented…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 30: Fight, Flight or Freeze

If you’ve always been a fighter, taken flight or frozen during stressful situations, this episode will help you learn how to deal with those patterns. Show NotesThe body’s natural response to threats, whether perceived or real, is to fight, flee or freeze. I share how recovery has helped me reprogram my internal response to threat,…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 29: Don’t Live into the Wreckage of the Future!

Living into the wreckage of the future is when you assume catastrophes will happen and you plan for them in your mind, and this episode will help you learn how to stop that. Show NotesThis episode will show you that there is another way to live inside your head besides assuming the worst is always…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 28: Healthy vs. Unhealthy: What’s Your Motivation?

Learn how to tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy behaviors, such as helping vs rescuing or dissociation vs having a good time by looking at your motivation. Show NotesSometimes the very same behavior can be healthy or unhealthy, it depends on your motivation. In this episode, I share what I’ve learned about the difference…

Fragmented to Whole Podcast 27: Getting Out of Enmeshment

Learn what enmeshed relationships look like and how to begin getting out of them. Show NotesIf you’re in a relationship or family system where you’re not allowed to have your own identity or opinions, then you’re likely enmeshed with those others and this episode will help you get un-enmeshed. I give examples of some of…

What listeners are saying

"Barb, it's clear that you're speaking from your lived experience, and what you talk about is beyond the rooms of recovery. You actually operationalize recovery."

- C

"Barb. My goodness. I just finished your [One Day at a Time] podcast. It was incredible. Thank you....

So I've listened to your first podcast. I was connected to what you said especially how your life has changed.  PAUSE, which I've learned about and love. And flawsome. Amen...Thanks so much. You give hope. It was powerful...

Just listened to #2 Acceptance. Gonna have to listen again. It was powerful. What really comes across is your sincerity. Thanks."

- K

"Hey! Finally started listening  to your podcast. It’s really good.  I listen to over 1000 podcast probably in the past two years. Your shit is official. You’re totally Flawsome.  You’re like a dynamic special ops recovery person. You're totally sensitive and have the [anonymous program]  active listening and true compassion characteristics. Combined with a little bit of adorable cheesiness (e.g. Flawsome). But then also like a tough guy old timer that’s gruff and doesn’t take shit from people."

- J

"I'm a minute and 22 seconds into your episode on Acceptance... I still have these [negative] thoughts...The solution: growth mindset and surrounding myself with this kind of information...thank you for doing this, definitely helps motivate me..."

- E

"Your podcast was a delight to listen to. Authenticity, sincerity starts within and re-parenting oneself with gentleness, humor, love and respect are the tools that fuels the process."

- A

"Full of useful, helpful guidance!!!! So, I say thank you for your efforts! It was not preachy at all - and I guard against 'preachiness.' ...Thank you for your efforts Barb."

- A.C

"I play [your podcasts] for people when I give them rides home from meetings. They find them awesome as I do...I am hoping to begin using your podcasts in groups at work - short enough to hold people's attention and wonderful topics that all can benefit from as we try to bring healing and freedom from suffering into the are a delight and a noble soul. Thank you. Grateful for your commitment to help heal our planet."

- R

"If I had to describe it....I bathed in episodes 1-3 this morning and I feel much more prepared to engage in the tasks that will bring me success...thank you."

- V

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