Ep 213 – How We Become Approval Seekers and How to Get Out of It

Many of us have grown up feeling that we have to do things for others so they won’t dislike us, get mad at us, leave us, or even abuse us. We then get so deeply ingrained in this behavior pattern that we think the only way we will be okay is by getting the approval of other people. This week’s episode 213 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how we become approval seekers and how to get out of it!

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of recognizing when you’re acting as an approval-seeker as a manipulation tactic and actionable steps you can take right now to transition into the type of person that lives their life for themselves and on their own terms. 

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:  

  • How we develop approval-seeking behavior.  
  • The difference between being kind and helpful and being a self-sacrificing person. 
  • Why approval seeking is much more than doing the right thing for someone, it’s manipulative. 
  • Steps to go from a lifetime of approval-seeking to being someone who cares so much less about what other people think of them. 

Part of the process of coming out of being an approval seeker is learning to give a shit about yourself and what you think, need, and want. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ 


Ep 161. How to Care More What You Think of Yourself Than What Others Do


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