Listen to Fragmented to Whole:Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
Ep 228 – Master Your Focus by Shifting to Focus on What You Want Not What You Don’t
If you want to go from being a reactor (reacting to things) to an actor (taking an active role) in your life, then focus on what you want and less on what you don’t want. This is living on purpose. People with healthy boundaries live on purpose. This week’s episode 228 of the Fragmented to…
Ep 227 – You Don’t Have to Save the Meeting, the Organization or the Cause
I’ve come across so many people over the years who felt like they had to continue going to 12-step meetings that weren’t healthy for them or that they had to do everything in their power to save an organization or a cause. They felt that all would be lost if they stopped going or contributing.…
Ep 226 – What the Cross Talk Rule Is and Why It Helps Us Build and Respect Boundaries
I recently had to call someone out for cross talking while I was doing a reading and surprisingly, I did not get a flood of shame or guilt for doing it. That goes to show how far I’ve come in recovery as I felt calm enforcing a boundary that I used to have such a…
Ep 225 – 5 Traits of People Pleasers and How They Can Turn Into Resentment
I had no idea that I was a people pleaser in the past, I just thought I was nice. Through recovery and coming out of codependence, I came to realize that people pleasing is not nice, and it’s actually dishonest. This week’s episode 225 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about 5 traits of…
Ep 224 – Taking a Searching and Blameless Inventory vs. a Searching and Fearless Inventory
I’ve had this conversation quite a bit with people in recovery about the difference between step 4 in ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) vs. other 12-step programs. In case you’re unfamiliar with step 4, it is focused on taking a good hard look at the patterns of our behavior, more specifically, looking…
Ep 223 – How Building Boundaries Helps You Overcome Victim Mentality and Unrealistic Expectations
One thing I’ve noticed with myself and with my boundaries coaching clients is that we have a deep seeded victim mentality and some pretty unrealistic expectations about ourselves, other people, and the world. This week’s episode 223 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how building boundaries helps you overcome victim mentality and unrealistic…
Ep 222 – The Evolution of My Reparenting Journey- Reshaping the Past to Heal the Future PART 2
In this episode, I continue sharing my story about how my reparenting practices have evolved considerably in the last few months. I left off part 1 talking about how I started using this new loving version of my dad that appeared to me in a visualization as an additional inner-loving parent. This week’s episode 222…
Ep 221 – The Evolution of My Reparenting Journey- Reshaping the Past to Heal the Future PART 1
As I mentioned in previous episodes, I am on a journey of reparenting myself. To those unfamiliar with reparenting, some techniques I use and share in this episode may seem crazy. Still, in all truth, they have healed me in a deep and profound way and I encourage you to be open-minded to new practices…
Ep 220 – The Past Does Not Equal the Future with Stephan Neff
Your past does not equal your future. Just because you’ve made some bad choices and picked up some negative habits along the way does not mean you are stuck in this. You have the power to start making small changes today to reverse the effects of your past life and create a life worth living.…
Ep 219 – How to Understand What a Spiritual Awakening Is and Three Personal Examples
The whole point of the 12 steps of recovery is to have a spiritual awakening and a spiritual awakening means we have changed. As a result of my recovery, I can be, see, think, do and have that which I could not before recovery. This week’s episode 219 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is…
Ep 218 – My Vulnerable Share About Family Dysfunction and How It Results In Trauma
The thing with trauma is that sometimes it can pop up and trigger us when we’re not expecting it. Last week, I attended a concert that brought up a lot of emotional trauma for me, and inspired by others in recovery, I decided to record my vulnerable thoughts and emotions in real-time to share with…
Ep 217 – Why Pausing is So Important and What To Do When You Pause
One of the big tasks in recovery is going from being a reactor to an actor in life, or to act ON life rather than reacting to it. This is huge and is another way of coming out of the victim mentality we often find ourselves living in. This week’s episode 217 of the Fragmented…
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