Ep 235 – Stop Trying to Win the Trauma Olympics By Comparing Your Trauma to Others

Content Warning: This episode includes brief mentions of abuse and other experiences that can cause trauma. 

We so easily compare ourselves to the people around us. While we can admit that comparison is not helpful, it can be especially harmful when we start comparing our trauma because it keeps us from healing. This week’s episode 235 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about trying to win the ‘Trauma Olympics’: stop comparing your trauma to others!

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how downplaying your trauma OR putting yourself into a victim mentality by comparing your trauma to others (as better or worse) keeps you from healing and what you can do instead.

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

  • Coming out of denial to see that I did have trauma – even if it didn’t look the same as the people around me.
  • The difference between “big T” trauma, and “little t” trauma. 
  • Differentiating between PTS, PTSD, and CPTSD.
  • Participating in the ‘Trauma Olympics’ keeps us from healing and moving forward. 

If you must make comparisons, compare yourself to the former you and look to see how far you’ve come.

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ 


Ep 193. How to Know If You’re an Adult Child – part 1: The Laundry List

Ep 194. How to Know If You’re an Adult Child – part 2: The Other  Laundry List

Ep 205.  24 Ways Adult Child Traits Show Up in The Workplace – Part 1

Ep 206.  24 Ways Adult Child Traits Show Up in The Workplace – Part 2


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