Podcasts
Episode 109: How to Stop Abandoning Yourself So You Can Get Over Your Fear of Abandonment
SHOW NOTES Most of us in recovery fear abandonment, yet ironically, most of us abandon ourselves. We do this because of the chaos and dysfunction with which we grew up. The key is to stop abandoning yourself, which essentially means to learn how to take good care of yourself. This is the essence of what…
Episode 108: How to Increase Your Integrity by Getting Clear on Your Intentions
SHOW NOTES Your integrity is impacted by your motives because our motives guide our behavior. We may THINK we’re doing something to be nice, when in fact we’re doing it to manipulate. This shatters our integrity because our intentions are not pure – we’re not living up to the spiritual principles we may think we…
Episode 107: The Importance of Boundaries in 12-Step Recovery: Learning from the Outside In
SHOW NOTES There are several means by which 12-step recovery programs impose boundaries on us. These include the Serenity Prayer, program slogans, several common meeting practices, as well as seven of the 12 Traditions. By having these healthy boundaries imposed from the outside first, we learn to form healthy boundaries of our from inside. The…
Episode 106: How to Overcome Victim Mentality Even If You’ve Been Victimized
SHOW NOTES People who have been victimized don’t necessarily take on the mentality of victimhood. That is, they’ve been through something, but they don’t always take on the identity of being a victim. Victims perceive themselves as not having choices. Victimization is about a situation; victimhood is an identity. The way to overcome this mentality…
Episode 105: How to Turn Your Life Around: From Obstacles to Detours
SHOW NOTES The universe is FOR you, not against you. There is wisdom in the universe beyond your understanding. When things pop up that feel like they’re obstacles on your path, they’re really just detours. If you think back over your life you’ll see that to be true. Why wait to gain the perspective of…
Episode 104: How Fear and Telling the Truth Can Lead You to Wholeness
SHOW NOTES Hear my story of uncovering a fear that I could feel bubbling up like a pressure cooker. I managed that fear by telling the truth – and I didn’t die! (not kidding!). My pattern of dishonesty over the years reared it’s ugly head. Not giving into that fear and being honest about it…
Episode 103: How to Go from Black-and-White Thinking to Seeing the Gray
SHOW NOTES Most people in recovery have or have had lives filled with chaos on dysfunction. When we’re surrounded by chaos, we’re frequently “activated” as if on alert, which means it’s hard to think clearly. One of the ways our thinking gets distorted is that we see things only in stark contrast – like the…
Episode 102: Why Keeping the Focus on Yourself is the Antidote to Codependence
SHOW NOTES Codependence is a focus outside the self. This happens because when we’re in fight or flight mode, we’re not able to access the “human” part of our brain. That part of our brain is where our “self” is formed. Setting healthy boundaries is the best way to keep the focus on yourself to…
Episode 101: Why We Sabotage the Things We Want and How to Stop
SHOW NOTES Many of us have been sabotaging the things we want in our lives. This is often outside our awareness so we blame others for making this happen. I blamed untrustworthy people for being untrustworthy, when it was me who was trusting them! If this is a pattern of yours, this episode should help…
Episode 100: Voices, Music and Readings of Recovery
SHOW NOTES In celebration of the 100th episode of my podcast, I’ve invited a variety of people to share their voices, music and poetry. I also shared 3 of my most important (brief) recovery readings, and a story about how the desire to record a podcast was planted in me decades before podcasts even existed!…