Podcasts

SHOW NOTES Some people think that “it’s all about me” is the same as “keep the focus on yourself.” It’s not. They’re very different. Opposites, in fact. When we’re focused on the external world (“it’s all about me”), we’re more likely to be exasperated, resentful and unfulfilled. That’s because we can’t do much about the…

SHOW NOTES When I stopped gossiping, I realized that I’d been “dragging stories with me” all my life. And it was making me miserable! It’s  bad enough that negative stuff happens, but you MAGNIFY the negativity by talking about it all the time! You relive the negative events over and over each time you talk…

SHOW NOTES Gail Ferguson Jones is a recovering codependent and host of the podcast “The Buttrfly Effect” (no “e”), which is for families of addicts. She shares her experience having grown up with multiple generations of alcoholism and being married to an alcoholic.  Gail dropped all kinds of pearls of wisdom on this show. Here…

SHOW NOTES Most of us in recovery fear abandonment, yet ironically, most of us abandon ourselves. We do this because of the chaos and dysfunction with which we grew up. The key is to stop abandoning yourself, which essentially means to learn how to take good care of yourself. This is the essence of what…

SHOW NOTES Your integrity is impacted by your motives because our motives guide our behavior. We may THINK we’re doing something to be nice, when in fact we’re doing it to manipulate. This shatters our integrity because our intentions are not pure – we’re not living up to the spiritual principles we may think we…

SHOW NOTES There are several means by which 12-step recovery programs impose boundaries on us. These include the Serenity Prayer, program slogans, several common meeting practices, as well as seven of the 12 Traditions. By having these healthy boundaries imposed from the outside first, we learn to form healthy boundaries of our from inside. The…

SHOW NOTES People who have been victimized don’t necessarily take on the mentality of victimhood. That is, they’ve been through something, but they don’t always take on the identity of being a victim. Victims perceive themselves as not having choices. Victimization is about a situation; victimhood is an identity.  The way to overcome this mentality…

SHOW NOTES The universe is FOR you, not against you. There is wisdom in the universe beyond your understanding. When things pop up that feel like they’re obstacles on your path, they’re really just detours. If you think back over your life you’ll see that to be true. Why wait to gain the perspective of…

SHOW NOTES Hear my story of uncovering a fear that I could feel bubbling up like a pressure cooker. I managed that fear by telling the truth – and I didn’t die! (not kidding!). My pattern of dishonesty over the years reared it’s ugly head. Not giving into that fear and being honest about it…

SHOW NOTES Most people in recovery have or have had lives filled with chaos on dysfunction. When we’re surrounded by chaos, we’re frequently “activated” as if on alert, which means it’s hard to think clearly. One of the ways our thinking gets distorted is that we see things only in stark contrast – like the…