Podcasts

Ep 229 – Why I Think of Gossip as an Anti-Intimacy Campaign and Scripts for How to Stop It

I think of gossip as an anti-intimacy campaign. Patterns of gossip truly prevent any type of real intimacy from forming between people.  Gossip is the perfect example of “anti-intimacy” because when you talk about people who are not in the room, you’re not talking about yourself or the other person.  That means neither of us…

Ep 228 – Master Your Focus by Shifting to Focus on What You Want Not What You Don’t

If you want to go from being a reactor (reacting to things) to an actor (taking an active role) in your life, then focus on what you want and less on what you don’t want. This is living on purpose. People with healthy boundaries live on purpose.  This week’s episode 228 of the Fragmented to…

Ep 227 – You Don’t Have to Save the Meeting, the Organization or the Cause

I’ve come across so many people over the years who felt like they had to continue going to 12-step meetings that weren’t healthy for them or that they had to do everything in their power to save an organization or a cause. They felt that all would be lost if they stopped going or contributing.…

Ep 226 – What the Cross Talk Rule Is and Why It Helps Us Build and Respect Boundaries

I recently had to call someone out for cross talking while I was doing a reading and surprisingly, I did not get a flood of shame or guilt for doing it. That goes to show how far I’ve come in recovery as I felt calm enforcing a boundary that I used to have such a…

Ep 225 – 5 Traits of People Pleasers and How They Can Turn Into Resentment

I had no idea that I was a people pleaser in the past, I just thought I was nice. Through recovery and coming out of codependence, I came to realize that people pleasing is not nice, and it’s actually dishonest. This week’s episode 225 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about 5 traits of…

Ep 224 – Taking a Searching and Blameless Inventory vs. a Searching and Fearless Inventory

I’ve had this conversation quite a bit with people in recovery about the difference between step 4 in ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) vs. other 12-step programs. In case you’re unfamiliar with step 4, it is focused on taking a good hard look at the patterns of our behavior, more specifically, looking…

Ep 223 – How Building Boundaries Helps You Overcome Victim Mentality and Unrealistic Expectations

One thing I’ve noticed with myself and with my boundaries coaching clients is that we have a deep seeded victim mentality and some pretty unrealistic expectations about ourselves, other people, and the world. This week’s episode 223 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how building boundaries helps you overcome victim mentality and unrealistic…

Ep 222 – The Evolution of My Reparenting Journey- Reshaping the Past to Heal the Future PART 2

In this episode, I continue sharing my story about how my reparenting practices have evolved considerably in the last few months. I left off part 1 talking about how I started using this new loving version of my dad that appeared to me in a visualization as an additional inner-loving parent. This week’s episode 222…

Ep 221 – The Evolution of My Reparenting Journey- Reshaping the Past to Heal the Future PART 1

As I mentioned in previous episodes, I am on a journey of reparenting myself. To those unfamiliar with reparenting, some techniques I use and share in this episode may seem crazy. Still, in all truth, they have healed me in a deep and profound way and I encourage you to be open-minded to new practices…

Ep 220 – The Past Does Not Equal the Future with Stephan Neff

Your past does not equal your future. Just because you’ve made some bad choices and picked up some negative habits along the way does not mean you are stuck in this. You have the power to start making small changes today to reverse the effects of your past life and create a life worth living.…