Posts by Rosa Carrasco-Vergara
Ep 216 – What It Means to Be Powerless Over the Effects of Alcoholism
What I’ve learned in ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) is that the effects of alcoholism get passed down through the generations. Because of this, we often talk about alcoholism as a family disease because the effects are embedded in the relationships surrounding the alcoholic, affecting everyone, not just the person abusing alcohol.…
Read MoreHere’s How to Understand the Difference Between Humility and Humiliation
Issue 25. June 2, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Kamran Abdullayev People often confuse humility with humiliation. It makes sense because they sound quite similar. But they’re not! I’ll start with humiliation because I’m not going to spend a lot of time on that in this essay. Humiliation is when you feel…
Read MoreEp 215 – How to Discover Your Real Identity and Authenticity by Building Healthy Boundaries
When it comes to growing up in a dysfunctional family, we didn’t have the opportunity to form our true, authentic identity because we were so corrupted by the dysfunction. Now, of course, there are certain elements of us that are true and real and have always been there but there are other parts of our…
Read MoreWho Is 12 Step Recovery For? What Are Physical and Process Addictions?
Issue 24. May 26, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ 12 Step recovery is for people with either a physical or process addiction. Physical addiction is when there’s some kind of substance we’re physically dependent on, like alcohol, drugs or food. A process addiction is when we have a compulsion to engage consistently…
Read MoreEp 214 – The Foundations of Recovery- Honesty, Open-Mindedness and Willingness
When I first got into recovery my sponsor told me, ‘If you’re not honest with me I can’t help you. You’ve got to be open-minded to the idea that there are things you don’t know and willing to do the things you’ve never done before to succeed in recovery.” This week’s episode 214 of the…
Read MoreThese Boundaries Will Have the Greatest Impact on Your Life
Issue 23. May 19, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Most people are clear that there are such things as boundaries of self-protection, though they may not call them that. And if they have poor boundaries, they’re probably also clear that others are “walking all over them” (thus the need for boundaries of…
Read MoreEp 213 – How We Become Approval Seekers and How to Get Out of It
Many of us have grown up feeling that we have to do things for others so they won’t dislike us, get mad at us, leave us, or even abuse us. We then get so deeply ingrained in this behavior pattern that we think the only way we will be okay is by getting the approval…
Read MoreWhy Not to Use the Word “Boundary” When Setting Boundaries with Others
Issue 22. May 12, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Sometimes people get offended when you set boundaries with them because they don’t have healthy boundaries themselves. That means if you’re getting offended when other people set boundaries with you, it may be because you don’t have healthy boundaries yourself! When we start to set boundaries with others…
Read MoreEp 212 – Nine New Methods I’ve Learned for Reparenting and How They’ve Affected Me
As I’ve mentioned previously, I am still (and forever will be) on a journey to reparent myself. Between the last time I did an episode on this topic and now, I have made some really radical and impactful internal changes that have made an enormous difference in my life. This week’s episode 212 of the…
Read MoreHow To Build a Romantic Relationship Based on Healthy Boundaries
Issue 21. May 5, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Boundaries are about relationships and love. In order to have intimacy, you must have healthy boundaries! One of the things I did, that is very common among those with unhealthy boundaries, was try to “hot wire” emotional intimacy through sex. It doesn’t work that way.…
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