Posts by Rosa Carrasco-Vergara
Episode 118: How to Untie the Bundle of Negativity and Self-judgment So You Can Have Peace and Ease.
SHOW NOTES The negativity and self-judgment you have going on in your head can end, and it starts with the thoughts in your head. SHOW NOTES If you’re sick and tired of the endless string of negative thoughts and self-judgment in your head, that can end! I’m living proof! It starts with awareness – awareness…
Read MoreEpisode 117: How to Stop Creating the Opposite of What You Want to Get the Life You DO Want.
SHOW NOTES When we’re focus on what we DON’T want we tend to get it, so focus on what you DO want instead. SHOW NOTES When we’re focused more on what others think of us, and things we DON’T want, we’re more likely to get it. However, when we start to focus on ourselves and…
Read MoreEpisode 116: How to Change Other People’s Behavior So You Can Have Better Relationships.
SHOW NOTES The only way to change the way others interact with you is to change the way YOU interact with THEM! You can’t change other people, but you *can* change your ways! When you start being honest with people about what you really want, need, think and feel, when you lower your expectations of…
Read MoreEpisode 115: Here’s How to Leverage Those Codependent Powers for Good!
SHOW NOTES Codependent people are focused outside themselves and care what others think about them. As you’re recovering from your codependent ways, you can leverage that tendency for your own good by using it with some kind of an accountability partner. In the beginning, you can use that desire to NOT let them down by…
Read MoreEpisode 114: Here’s What Recovery Looks Like in Real Life – My Day at the Beach
SHOW NOTES Here’s a story of a variety of ways that recovery has shown up in my everyday life. It features a story from a day at the beach where I sat next to two people who were bitching and complaining. In the past, I would sat there and stewed and fumed and blamed them…
Read MoreEpisode 113: Boundaries without Consequences Aren’t Really Boundaries – They’re Hopes and Wishes
SHOW NOTES If you set a boundary with someone and they don’t honor, you have to do something about them not honoring it. “Doing something” is called a consequence. If you don’t do anything when someone doesn’t honor your boundary, then it wasn’t really a boundary, it was just a wish. Learn how to set…
Read MoreEpisode 112: How and Why to Go from an External Focus to an Internal Focus
SHOW NOTES Some people think that “it’s all about me” is the same as “keep the focus on yourself.” It’s not. They’re very different. Opposites, in fact. When we’re focused on the external world (“it’s all about me”), we’re more likely to be exasperated, resentful and unfulfilled. That’s because we can’t do much about the…
Read MoreEpisode 111: How and Why to Stop Dragging the Story with You
SHOW NOTES When I stopped gossiping, I realized that I’d been “dragging stories with me” all my life. And it was making me miserable! It’s bad enough that negative stuff happens, but you MAGNIFY the negativity by talking about it all the time! You relive the negative events over and over each time you talk…
Read MoreEpisode 110: Guest Episode – Codependency with Gail
SHOW NOTES Gail Ferguson Jones is a recovering codependent and host of the podcast “The Buttrfly Effect” (no “e”), which is for families of addicts. She shares her experience having grown up with multiple generations of alcoholism and being married to an alcoholic. Gail dropped all kinds of pearls of wisdom on this show. Here…
Read MoreEpisode 109: How to Stop Abandoning Yourself So You Can Get Over Your Fear of Abandonment
SHOW NOTES Most of us in recovery fear abandonment, yet ironically, most of us abandon ourselves. We do this because of the chaos and dysfunction with which we grew up. The key is to stop abandoning yourself, which essentially means to learn how to take good care of yourself. This is the essence of what…
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