Posts by Rosa Carrasco-Vergara

Issue 68. March 29, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: allgo When I was younger, I believed courage meant not being afraid. I didn’t understand how people could have no fear. How did they get rid of it, or just not have it in the first place?? I’ve learned that courage…

Part 1 of 5: Overcoming Unrealistic Expectations Issue 56. January 5, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: ph-m-chung One of the most disruptive patterns I discovered in early recovery was that I had all kinds of unrealistic expectations – of myself, others and the world. Since this was such an enormous…

Issue 55. December 29, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Dayne Topkin When I first heard the saying, “It’s none of your business what other people think of you”, I had no idea what that meant. I seriously couldn’t wrap my mind around it. Every time I thought about that saying,…

In 2015, at the age of 52, I hit a codependent bottom and landed in 12-step recovery. This was after 37 years of therapy and tons of other personal development efforts. You name it, I tried it! All those things scratched the surface of the iceberg of my life, whereas 12-step recovery melted the iceberg. By far…

Issue 49. November 17, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Adi Goldstein If you’re the kind of person who is always looking for someone to blame, welcome to the club! That was me. But I didn’t even realize that was what I was doing until I got into recovery. I’ve come…

Issue 48. November 10, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Maybe you’ve heard the saying, “Feelings aren’t facts.” Though this is true, they’re still real, and they matter. The point behind this saying is that feelings don’t need to rule your life. Take your feelings into account, but don’t necessarily use them as…

Issue 47. November 3, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Kyle Nieber One afternoon at the beach nearby, I happened to sit next to a couple of women who were just bitching up a storm. Before recovery, I would have stayed there and been pissed off that these assholes were sitting…

Part 5 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 46. October 27, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Marten Newhall The mentality I’m speaking of is referred to as victim mentality. There are a lot of misconceptions about what this is, which means so many people…

Part 4 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 45. October 20, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ The Drama Triangle is sometimes also referred to as the Victim Triangle. It’s a model of dysfunctional interaction first delineated by Stephen Karpman in 1968. It includes the roles of…