Ep 179 – Freedom from the Lie of Shame- You’re Not Inherently Flawed

Many of us in recovery use drugs or alcohol to temporarily avoid the feeling of shame, but the thing about addiction is it fuels the shame we feel about our behaviors and leads us into a dangerous cycle. That’s why it’s so important to deal with the underlying shame, put a stop to the cycle and avoid potential relapse. This week’s episode 179 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about freedom from the lie of shame- you’re not inherently flawed!

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my journey of understanding shame through recovery and actionable steps you can take right now to set boundaries and remove shame from your life. 

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

  • Sharing the acronym S.H.A.M.E. (Should Have Already Mastered Everything) that  I learned in recovery that brought me so much clarity as to why I felt shame.
  • How I came to realize that this thing that was happening to me was shame and learning that it was something entirely separate from me. 
  • Sharing instances in my life where I realized sooner or later that shame was the underlying feeling I had experienced all those years. 
  • How recovery has helped me find freedom from shame and put an end to the cycle of passing on dysfunctional patterns. 

I am not shame. I am a beloved child of God and so are you. 

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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This is the podcast “Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery.” It will help people who want to heal to move from fragmented to whole.

Hi, I’m Barb! I share my experience, strength and hope from 12 step recovery in each episode. They’re all 20 minutes or less. Unlike most recovery podcasts where you hear a person’s whole story, in this one each episode is about a specific topic.

There are many life lessons from 12 step recovery that are applicable to those in and outside of recovery. This podcast brings some of those lessons to the airwaves, including such topics as learning acceptance, recognizing and overcoming victim mentality and establishing healthy boundaries.

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