Ep 163 – Feelings Aren’t Facts – But They’re Still Real and They Matter

There’s a thing that people in recovery like to say, and it really used to piss me off. The saying is, “Feelings aren’t facts,”. While it may be true, I know my feelings are real, and I just didn’t get it when people said this. Usually it was in an accusatory manner, like, “How dare you have those feelings!” I now have a better handle on my feelings, both in recognition and understanding them. This week’s episode 163 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to validate and understand your feelings and create emotional sobriety! 

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of understanding your feelings and actionable steps you can take right now to validate your feelings without overreacting and letting emotions take the driver’s seat. A lot of the times our emotions and our reactions to those feelings are directly related to the things we’ve experienced in our past. In my case, that’s trauma. Without recognizing this in the present, you could have something trigger a fault-line in your soul that causes a different reaction than the situation actually warrants. This is not to say that your feelings don’t matter; they do and we should feel them. Where we get into trouble is when we mistakenly believe the emotion we’re feeling now actually relates to the current situation, and not from our past, and then act on that feeling. We instead need to focus on what we want, not what we don’t want.

We want to live our lives on purpose. This means identifying not what we don’t want, but what we DO want, in order to get to peace. Focusing on other people and what they’re doing is not going to get me peace.  Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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What is Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery?

This is the podcast “Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery.” It will help people who want to heal to move from fragmented to whole.

Hi, I’m Barb! I share my experience, strength and hope from 12 step recovery in each episode. They’re all 20 minutes or less. Unlike most recovery podcasts where you hear a person’s whole story, in this one each episode is about a specific topic.

There are many life lessons from 12 step recovery that are applicable to those in and outside of recovery. This podcast brings some of those lessons to the airwaves, including such topics as learning acceptance, recognizing and overcoming victim mentality and establishing healthy boundaries.

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