Posts by Rosa Carrasco-Vergara
Ep 226 – What the Cross Talk Rule Is and Why It Helps Us Build and Respect Boundaries
I recently had to call someone out for cross talking while I was doing a reading and surprisingly, I did not get a flood of shame or guilt for doing it. That goes to show how far I’ve come in recovery as I felt calm enforcing a boundary that I used to have such a…
Read MoreEp 225 – 5 Traits of People Pleasers and How They Can Turn Into Resentment
I had no idea that I was a people pleaser in the past, I just thought I was nice. Through recovery and coming out of codependence, I came to realize that people pleasing is not nice, and it’s actually dishonest. This week’s episode 225 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about 5 traits of…
Read More3 Tricks to Start Taking Charge of What’s Going Through Your Head
Issue 35. August 11, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Just because you think something doesn’t mean it’s true! That’s why you want to talk to yourself more than you listen to yourself. Your negative self-talk is like poison in the well of your mind. When you stop the negative self-talk, that well becomes purified. But if…
Read MoreThree Boundaries to Get Shit Done and Increase Your Productivity
Issue 34. August 4, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Jon Tyson Some of the most effective boundaries I’ve used in my life are around my time. I’ve always been a very productive person, but my productivity has sky rocketed since I’ve built healthy boundaries. These include: Using a timer I…
Read MoreEp 224 – Taking a Searching and Blameless Inventory vs. a Searching and Fearless Inventory
I’ve had this conversation quite a bit with people in recovery about the difference between step 4 in ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) vs. other 12-step programs. In case you’re unfamiliar with step 4, it is focused on taking a good hard look at the patterns of our behavior, more specifically, looking…
Read MoreEp 223 – How Building Boundaries Helps You Overcome Victim Mentality and Unrealistic Expectations
One thing I’ve noticed with myself and with my boundaries coaching clients is that we have a deep seeded victim mentality and some pretty unrealistic expectations about ourselves, other people, and the world. This week’s episode 223 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how building boundaries helps you overcome victim mentality and unrealistic…
Read MoreYour Motives Matter for You but Not for Other People
Issue 33. July 28, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Colen Meg One of the most important questions I’ve learned to ask myself when trying to decide what the right thing is for me to do is, “What are my motives?” I came to see that my motives for helping people…
Read MoreHow to Overcome the Tendency to Make Things Mean Things That They Don’t
Issue 32. July 21, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Christian Rucinski Have you been making things mean things that they don’t? I used to do that all the time. Typically, I’d decide someone’s behavior I didn’t like meant something about me. Something negative, that is. Then I’d act as if the meaning…
Read MoreEp 222 – The Evolution of My Reparenting Journey- Reshaping the Past to Heal the Future PART 2
In this episode, I continue sharing my story about how my reparenting practices have evolved considerably in the last few months. I left off part 1 talking about how I started using this new loving version of my dad that appeared to me in a visualization as an additional inner-loving parent. This week’s episode 222…
Read MoreEmpower Yourself and Gain Energy by Shifting Focus to What You Can Control
Issue 31. July 14, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ This image was inspired by management guru Stephen Covey who introduced the concept of Circles of Concern versus Circles of Control. I love it for so many reasons, including that it’s really helpful for visual learners. If you want to live your life on purpose and be…
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