Ep 225 – 5 Traits of People Pleasers and How They Can Turn Into Resentment

I had no idea that I was a people pleaser in the past, I just thought I was nice. Through recovery and coming out of codependence, I came to realize that people pleasing is not nice, and it’s actually dishonest. This week’s episode 225 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about 5 traits of people pleasers and how they can turn into resentment. 

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how, as people pleasers, we become so focused on everyone else that we often neglect our own wants, needs, and desires. 

The 5 traits common to people pleasers are:

  1. Your self-worth is based on what other people think of you and you’re not even paying attention to what you think of yourself. 
  2. When you see people in conflict, especially people that you care about, something triggers inside of you where you think it is your job to fix the situation.
  3. You don’t even wait for people to ask you for help, you just jump in anyway, regardless if they wanted your help or not.
  4. You avoid telling people what’s really on your mind because you don’t want to rock the boat 
  5. You feel compelled to help people in order to get their approval so you can have a sense of self-worth. 

In order to start backing away from your people-pleasing ways, you can start by keeping your focus on yourself rather than on other people and keep this momentum going by taking really good care of yourself. 

Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ 


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Ep. 102. Why keeping the focus on yourself is the antidote to codependence

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