Fragmented to Whole
Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
This podcast can help you go from fragmented to whole. The title of the podcast comes from my journey of recovery in 12 step programs where I came in feeling fragmented and now I AM WHOLE. I talk about how that happened, and many of the lessons I've learned in recovery. I cover such topics as learning acceptance, overcoming unrealistic expectations, intimacy, forgiveness and boundaries.
Most episodes are 20 minutes or less. The first episode is my story in brief so you'll hear about the kind of profound life changes that I experienced in 12-step recovery. Other episodes cover specific topics such as Acceptance, Victim Mentality, Overcoming Negative Thought Loops, etc. You don't have to be in recovery to benefit from it though!
One last (very important) thing. I don't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though I'm a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, I cannot speak them. Take what you want and leave the rest. Oh - and, I swear. A lot. If you don't like swearing, don't listen!
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Fragmented to Whole Podcast 60: Tips and Scripts for Saying “No”
If you have trouble saying “no” this episode is for you!Show NotesI share several tips for how to say no. I also share several scripts – specific words and phrases you can use in various situations to set boundaries with others. These include scripts for saying “no” to friends, family, bosses and clients.
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 59: Making Things Mean Things That They Don’t
If you interpret other people’s actions as against you all the time, this episode might challenge your thinking. Show NotesIf you decide that things that happen around you almost always mean something negative, you might be “making things mean things that they don’t.” In this episode I give a really good example of how I…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 58: End the Chaos!
The opposite of chaos is predictability, and this episode talks about how to create more predictability in your life. Show NotesIf you’ve lived a life of chaos and want that to end, this episode is for you! In it you’ll learn how to slowly begin to put some structure in your life. This will give…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 57: Turn Off the Spigot of Negativity and Purify the Well of Your Mind
Learn how to get rid of the negative audio playing in the background of your mind, it’s poisoning your mind! Show NotesWhen negative thoughts continually run through our minds it’s like poison in a well. It’s impossible to love yourself when the well of your mind is full of poison. Stopping the negative thoughts helps…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 56: How I Got Over People-Pleasing and You Can Too!
If you are tired of your people-pleasing ways, this episode is for you! Show NotesI didn’t even know I was a people-pleaser, I thought I was nice. It turns out people-pleasing isn’t nice, it’s dishonest and manipulative. Ugh! But there’s hope! I talk about how I got over my people-pleasing ways and you can too.…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 55: Stop Hiding
If you feel like you have to hide who you really are to be accepted, this episode is for you!We hide by isolating and telling lies. We’re afraid to show our flaws. But being flawed is just part of being human. Once you can accept this in yourself, it’s easier to accept it in others…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 54: Improve Your Relationships
This episode covers 9 rules for improving your relationships. Show NotesEveryone wants their relationships to be a safe harbor. To help you achieve that, I borrow nine rules from David J. Lieberman as a way to structure this episode. I then share what I’ve learned about each rule from my recovery to illustrate them. The…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 53: Focus on What You CAN Control
This episode adapts Stephen Covey’s Circle of Concern and Circle of Control concepts to the COVID-19 situation to help us focus on what we can control. Show NotesControl is an issue for people in recovery, and right now it’s probably a concern for just about everyone given COVID-19. Covey’s model of Circle of Concern vs.…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 52: Trauma Response Prevention During COVID-19
This episode covers the preconditions for trauma and the strategies to prevent or at least reduce the impact of trauma from the pandemic and quarantine. Show NotesThere are a number of predictable conditions that lead to trauma. These include unpredictability, immobility, loss of connection, loss of a sense of safety and others. These can be…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 51: Life on Life’s Terms
If you’re having difficulty dealing with the COVID-19 situation, or anything else that’s causing you difficulty, this episode can help! Show NotesLiving life on life’s terms means being able to accept and face life as it comes, not as you wish it would come. You’ll hear about how I made the shift from being pissed…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 50: Q&A from Listeners
For my 50th episode I took questions from listeners and answered them, such as what’s the difference between grief, depression and unmanageability, and how do I have better boundaries with my kids? Show NotesIn this 50th episode, I take more time than usual to answer a variety of listener questions. In addition to grief, depression,…
Fragmented to Whole Podcast 49: Soothe Your Mind & Heart During COVID-19
I suggest previous episodes that will help you soothe your mind and heart during this pandemic, whether anxious, depressed or overwhelmed. Show NotesIf you’re stuck in negative thought loops, catastrophizing about the future, or burned out and overwhelmed from rescuing others I can help! Rather than creating a new episode this week, I make suggestions…
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Framing everything through the lens of “boundaries” made sense to me. Something “clicked.” I realized many of my own struggles – maybe all of them – could be seen through the same lens. I also felt – after bingeing your podcasts – that I already knew you and that you were a straight shooter. You experienced many of the challenges that I was facing, and I greatly appreciated your willingness to share openly and honestly. And I was so encouraged to hear you talk about how much better your life is after starting your own recovery journey." ~ K
