Whether you’re in recovery or not, you may have heard the saying, “If you’re hysterical, it’s historical.” This phrase refers to the times in our lives when we may have an emotional reaction that felt completely out of proportion to the situation at hand and gives some insight into some unresolved trauma from our past. This week’s episode 277 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the meaning behind the saying, “If you’re hysterical, it’s hiSend us a Text Message.
In ACA we say that shame is the legacy of adult children and it is passed down from generation to generation. That’s why we feel shame for things that “normal” people don’t. This week’s episode 278 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about breaking free from generational shame and humiliation!
In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how, despite the saying that guilt is, ‘I did something wrong’ and shame is ‘I am something wrong,’ for me, it was more frequently that I was supposed to know something that I don’t or I’m supposed to be or do something that I’m not. And that is because of the messages I received from the people around me growing up.
Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
- Examples of the messages I received from my family that led to this deeply ingrained sense of shame I felt most of my adult life.
- Things that have made me feel shame and humiliation over the years that other people likely wouldn’t.
- How setting healthy boundaries helped me know myself better and overcome the shame and humiliation I once felt.
Remember, it is fine to seek the approval of others but only when you have your own approval first.
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LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Ep. 17. GUILT AND SHAME
Ep. 179. Freedom from the Lie of Shame – You’re Not Inherently Flawed
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