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Issue 47. November 3, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Kyle Nieber One afternoon at the beach nearby, I happened to sit next to a couple of women who were just bitching up a storm. Before recovery, I would have stayed there and been pissed off that these assholes were sitting…

Part 5 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 46. October 27, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Marten Newhall The mentality I’m speaking of is referred to as victim mentality. There are a lot of misconceptions about what this is, which means so many people…

Part 4 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 45. October 20, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ The Drama Triangle is sometimes also referred to as the Victim Triangle. It’s a model of dysfunctional interaction first delineated by Stephen Karpman in 1968. It includes the roles of…

Part 3 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 44. October 13, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Omid Armin 1. Realize you have victim mentalityThis mentality can be super hard to see because it’s deeply entrenched. Having this mentality  doesn’t mean you’re bad or weak.…

Part 2 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 43. October 6, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Fuu If you have the mentality of victimhood, you likely got it from being victimized in some way. For me, it was from growing up with the dysfunction…

Part 1 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 42. September 29, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Karobo Mdluli This is part 1 of a 5 part series on what victim mentality is and how to get out of it. In this essay, I’ll share…

Issue 41. September 22, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Alexandra Gorn You may be a people-pleaser if you… The thing about being a people-pleaser is that we’re often dishonest with ourselves and each other. We say yes to things we don’t really want to do. We say no to things…

Issue 40. September 15, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Jayson Hinrichsen 1. Don’t date for the first year (unless you’re already in a relationship, of course). You’re going to be a completely different person who is much healthier in a year version. You’ll be attracted to healthier people, and they’ll be attracted…

Issue 39. September 8, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Ave Calvar Many of us in recovery use and abuse substances because of the feeling of shame. The drugs or the alcohol or the food or sex or whatever it is temporarily take away the feeling of shame. The thing about…

Issue 38. September 1, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ When I first started learning about boundaries, the idea that boundaries are self-protective was the concept of boundaries that I understood first. That is, they’re about setting limits with other people about what I will and will not tolerate, what’s okay with me…