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Why Caring About Someone Can Turn Into Carrying Their Feelings
photo credit: Curated Lifestyle This is part of The Hidden Mechanics of Boundaries, a limited series about what happens under the surface before, during, and after a boundary. When someone you love is upset, something inside you shifts. Perhaps your partner’s disappointed that you’ve made plans without them. Or maybe a family member’s overwhelmed and…
How to Go from Victim to Discernment: Reclaiming the Power to Choose
Issue 124, June 20, 2025 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Recovery Is About Learning That You Have Choices Recovery, at its core, is about reclaiming the ability to choose. If you think about it, addiction and compulsion are the opposite of choice. So when we begin the recovery journey, we’re moving toward choice,…
How to Stop Seeking Approval at Work Without Feeling Like a Bad Person
Issue 186, September 25, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ See if this sounds familiar: you finish a meeting knowing you were prepared. You answered the questions, contributed something useful, and followed through on what you’d promised. But your boss seemed a little distracted when you spoke, and now that’s the part you…
Why Being Helpful, Responsible, and Kind Can Become Self-Abandonment
image credit: Chat GPT This is part of The Hidden Mechanics of Boundaries, a limited series about what happens under the surface before, during, and after a boundary. Someone asks whether you can help with something. You’re already tired. Your calendar is full, you have priorities of your own, and you may even feel your…
When Keeping the Peace at Work Means Abandoning Yourself:10 Practices That Can Help
Issue 185, September 18, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ For years, I described myself as conflict-averse. I didn’t like conflict, and I assumed avoiding difficult conversations was how I “kept the peace.” But I wasn’t actually avoiding conflict. I was allowing it to take place entirely inside me. I didn’t realize that…
Why You Can Know Exactly What You Need and Still Disappear in the Moment
photo credit: Curated Lifestyle This is part of The Hidden Mechanics of Boundaries, a limited series about what happens under the surface before, during, and after a boundary. You can walk into a conversation knowing exactly what you need. You’ve thought it through, written it down, and perhaps even practiced what you’re going to say.…
When Meaningful Work Becomes More Than One Person Can Carry
When being “the dependable one” turns into carrying an organization that was never yours to carry alone Issue 184, September 11, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ There’s often one person in a workplace who knows where everything is, remembers what everyone else has forgotten, notices what’s about to fall through the cracks,…
Workplace Boundaries:When Being a Great Employee Comes at Your Expense
Issue 183, September 4, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ For years, I had some kind of serious drama or dysfunction at almost every place I worked. At one restaurant, a chef screamed obscenities at me in front of a kitchen full of people, and I stayed and finished my shift. And I…
Resetting Your Routines: How to Create Habits That Support Your Life
Issue 181, August 28, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ When we started exploring transitions and resetting routines this month, we began with what happens when life doesn’t go according to plan. We’ve looked at how something that initially feels like adversity can lead somewhere you never would’ve chosen for yourself. Then we…
Aim for the Target, Not the Trophy: How to Build a Life Around What Matters
Issue 181, August 21, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ There’s something about transitions that makes us want to figure everything out: I want to know now how things are going to play out! What should my new routine look like? What should I be doing differently? How am I going to make…