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How Saying ‘Yes’ is Costing High-Powered Women $20,500 a Year

Issue 80. June 21, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Getty Images In my boundaries coaching business, I coach some pretty high-powered women. There’s an enormous toll on them personally, professionally, physically, psychologically, emotionally and financially. There are many factors that lead to this, but it’s mainly because they keep saying…

How to Transform Our Natural Instincts to Get What We DO Want Instead of What We DON’T

Issue 79. June 14, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Ashlyn Ciara We have certain instincts that we’re born with. They’re natural and are supposed to be there. These are things like security, self-esteem, and personal relationships. But what happens for many of us is that these instincts get distorted and…

You Spot It You Got It: How to Understand Projection

Issue 78. June 7, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Andrej Lisakov Yesterday a client told me her soon-to-be ex-wife called her “juvenile.” I wrote back “projection.” This was in response to my client asking to have their child’s car seat set up in her ex’s car according to the safety…

How to Release the Past: The Benefits of Letting Go of Negative Narratives

Issue 77. May 31, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Patrick Tomasso When I went through the process to stop gossiping, I realized a lot of things about myself. The realization that I gossiped was pretty astonishing, but there was so much more! Among other things, I realized… That last point is…

Why Setting Boundaries Upsets People: A Guide to Maintaining Your Limits

Issue 76. May 24, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Andrej Lisakov Spoiler alert! People usually get offended when you set boundaries with them because they don’t have healthy boundaries themselves!! That means if you’re getting offended when other people set limits with you, you probably don’t have healthy boundaries. ☹️ It could also be the case that they get offended because you’ve decided to…

How to Overcome Negativity: Journey from Catastrophizing to Empowerment

Issue 75. May 17, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Ava Sol I’ve always thought of myself as a very positive and optimistic person. When I got into recovery, I realized that I had a lot of negative thinking. Sometimes, it was ruminating about the past, but more often it was catastrophizing about the future. I call…

The Power of Self-Focus: How to Redefine Selfishness for a Fulfilling Life

Issue 74. May 10, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Priscilla Du Preez and Sage Friedman For some reason, most of the people I work with are super concerned about not being selfish. People (especially women) act like being selfish is one of the worst sins you can commit. Even being perceived as selfish is so distressing…

How to Embrace Flexibility and Bust the Myth of Life Balance for Good

Issue 73. May 3, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Getty Images If you’ve ever felt like you keep trying to get to balance but are not able to get there because you keep getting thrown off, this essay is for you. When we think about balance in our lives, we tend to think it…

How to Embrace Clarity and Communication to Heal Your Relationships

Issue 72. April 26, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Uday Mittal One of the insights I gained early in my recovery journey was that I’d been expecting people to read my mind my whole life—well, at least subconsciously. If you had asked me, “Are you expecting people to read your mind?” I probably would…

How to Navigate Between Two Kinds of Discomfort for Chaos or Growth

Issue 71. April 19, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ There are two kinds of “uncomfortable.” The first might come up if you grew up in a chaotic and dysfunctional family like I did. That means you learned to put up with difficulty and discomfort. It could have been emotional, psychological, or physical…