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The 12 Employee Personalities: Who’s Thriving and Who’s Struggling?
Issue 93. September 27, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Below are profiles of the different types of personalities I see in my work as a boundaries coach. I tend to work with professional women, so these are profiles of professional women. See if you can spot which one of these employees you…
Breaking Free from Black-and-White Thinking: How to Embrace Life’s Nuance
Issue 92. September 20, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Black-and-white thinking is a common pattern for people whose lives are chaotic, and/or who have unhealthy boundaries, addiction, compulsion, and/or obsession. This is sometimes referred to as “all or nothing” thinking or “either/or” thinking. That is, there’s no gray area, things are either…
How to Go From Chemistry to Compatibility: Build Sustainable Love with Boundaries
Do you have a history of dysfunctional romantic relationships? Me too! Until my current relationship, that is. Maybe you’re skipping a phase or two of healthy relationships, I know I was. One thing that many of my boundaries coaching clients have in common is that they skip the stage of “compatibility” in their romantic relationships…
How Letting Go of Others’ Opinions Helped Me Build Healthy Boundaries
Issue 91. September 13, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ The most important thing that enabled me to go from 50+ years of having no boundaries to having healthy boundaries was this: I made the shift from being super concerned with what others think of me to becoming more concerned with what I…
Breaking Free from Old Patterns: The Power of Asking for Clarity
Issue 90. August 30, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ It used to be that when things would happen I’d decide, “It means this.” This was especially true of negative things, but sometimes also true of good things. I’d place a meaning on something and then continue on with my life as if…
Why Affirmations Aren’t Just Wishful Thinking: How to Transform Your Inner Dialogue
Issue 89. August 23, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I know sometimes people gag when they hear the term “affirmations.” I get it. You can’t just sit around saying “I’m rich” and get rich. That’s not what affirmations are for. They’re for clearing up the negative stuff that’s often swirling in the…
Mentoring Lessons from 12-Step Recovery: Making It Work for You
Issue 88. August 16, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Mentoring has been practiced for millennia. It’s a fantastic way to build community, groom new leaders, forge ties between various groups, pass on institutional knowledge and culture, and feel connected to others. I’ve learned a ton about both being mentored and being a…
How to Change When Helping Hurts: Lessons from My Codependent Crisis
Issue 87. August 9, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ The incident that landed me in a 12-step recovery was that I hit a codependent bottom. It happened as a result of inviting my homeless friend Dan from church to stay overnight at my home during a really heavy snowstorm in January 2015.…
How to Go from Neediness to Fulfillment: Let Go of External Validation
Issue 86. August 2, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Reflecting on my journey through the 12 steps of recovery, I can see that I previously expected the world and the people in it to meet my needs. I mean for things like validation, love, and acceptance. That seems pretty normal. But what…
My Top 3 Tools for Life: Part 3 – Rediscovering Yourself Through Inner Focus
Issue 85. July 26, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Marcus Aurelius This is the third part of my three-part series on my most important tools for life, which is learning to keep the focus on myself. If you missed the previous two, they’re Mastering the Art of Pausing and Embracing…