Friday Fragments

Issue 96. October 18, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨If other people are to blame for everything that’s wrong in your life, you’re screwed! That would mean you have no options. I don’t believe that. When we realize that others are not to blame for the difficulties of our lives, we can take…

Issue 95. October 11, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I used to be confused about the difference between intensity and intimacy. I’m guessing some of you are too. I never had true intimacy with anyone before recovery, but I had lots of intense relationships. I mistook that intensity for intimacy. I’m pretty…

Issue 94. October 4, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Why Telling the Truth Scared Me—And How It Healed Me Telling the truth can be really scary sometimes, especially if you’ve been dishonest for much of your life. Given my history of addiction, compulsion, obsession, mental health problems, and growing up in a…

Issue 93. September 27, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Below are profiles of the different types of personalities I see in my work as a boundaries coach. I tend to work with professional women, so these are profiles of professional women. See if you can spot which one of these employees you…

Issue 92. September 20, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Black-and-white thinking is a common pattern for people whose lives are chaotic, and/or who have unhealthy boundaries, addiction, compulsion, and/or obsession. This is sometimes referred to as “all or nothing” thinking or “either/or” thinking. That is, there’s no gray area, things are either…

Do you have a history of dysfunctional romantic relationships? Me too! Until my current relationship, that is. Maybe you’re skipping a phase or two of healthy relationships, I know I was. One thing that many of my boundaries coaching clients have in common is that they skip the stage of “compatibility” in their romantic relationships…

Issue 91. September 13, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ The most important thing that enabled me to go from 50+ years of having no boundaries to having healthy boundaries was this: I made the shift from being super concerned with what others think of me to becoming more concerned with what I…

Issue 90. August 30, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ It used to be that when things would happen I’d decide, “It means this.” This was especially true of negative things, but sometimes also true of good things. I’d place a meaning on something and then continue on with my life as if…

Issue 89. August 23, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I know sometimes people gag when they hear the term “affirmations.” I get it. You can’t just sit around saying “I’m rich” and get rich. That’s not what affirmations are for. They’re for clearing up the negative stuff that’s often swirling in the…