Posts by Rosa Carrasco-Vergara
Why People Pleasing Is Dishonest and Manipulative and Two Tips For How To Change
Issue 41. September 22, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Alexandra Gorn You may be a people-pleaser if you… The thing about being a people-pleaser is that we’re often dishonest with ourselves and each other. We say yes to things we don’t really want to do. We say no to things…
Read More12 Things I Learned from Recovery About How To Be In Relationships
Issue 40. September 15, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Jayson Hinrichsen 1. Don’t date for the first year (unless you’re already in a relationship, of course). You’re going to be a completely different person who is much healthier in a year version. You’ll be attracted to healthier people, and they’ll be attracted…
Read MoreEp 230 – From G.E.D to Ph.D. with Melissa “Dr. Mo” Dittberner
Today’s guest genuinely had an incredible full-circle journey from addiction at a young age, dropping out of high school, getting her G.E.D. and later her Ph.D. to teaching the next generation of supporters for those in recovery. This week’s episode 230 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how Melissa went from G.E.D. to…
Read MoreWhat Shame Is and How to Get Past It
Issue 39. September 8, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Ave Calvar Many of us in recovery use and abuse substances because of the feeling of shame. The drugs or the alcohol or the food or sex or whatever it is temporarily take away the feeling of shame. The thing about…
Read MoreEp 229 – Why I Think of Gossip as an Anti-Intimacy Campaign and Scripts for How to Stop It
I think of gossip as an anti-intimacy campaign. Patterns of gossip truly prevent any type of real intimacy from forming between people. Gossip is the perfect example of “anti-intimacy” because when you talk about people who are not in the room, you’re not talking about yourself or the other person. That means neither of us…
Read MoreHow to Reduce Your Chances of Being Triggered: Use Boundaries of Self-Protection
Issue 38. September 1, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ When I first started learning about boundaries, the idea that boundaries are self-protective was the concept of boundaries that I understood first. That is, they’re about setting limits with other people about what I will and will not tolerate, what’s okay with me…
Read MoreEp 228 – Master Your Focus by Shifting to Focus on What You Want Not What You Don’t
If you want to go from being a reactor (reacting to things) to an actor (taking an active role) in your life, then focus on what you want and less on what you don’t want. This is living on purpose. People with healthy boundaries live on purpose. This week’s episode 228 of the Fragmented to…
Read MoreHow I Learned to Form Healthy Boundaries and Became a Boundaries Coach
Issue 37. August 25, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I learned how to form healthy boundaries within the context of 12-step recovery. I was in a program for people who grew up with relational trauma where you reparent yourselves and use the 12 steps to recover. I did that work in a…
Read MoreEp 227 – You Don’t Have to Save the Meeting, the Organization or the Cause
I’ve come across so many people over the years who felt like they had to continue going to 12-step meetings that weren’t healthy for them or that they had to do everything in their power to save an organization or a cause. They felt that all would be lost if they stopped going or contributing.…
Read MoreHow and Why Surrender Leads to Victory Not Loss
Issue 36. August 18, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Gursimrat Ganda Surrender doesn’t mean you lose, it means you give up the battle. If you were in an actual battle with live enemies, that might seem like a loss. But when you’re in a battle with addiction, compulsion, chaos, and…
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