Posts by Barb Nangle

SHOW NOTES Being comfortable in my own skin and not being mired in fear are two very important reasons why sex is sooooo much better in recovery than it was before recovery! Being able to be vulnerable with your partner and communicate directly also helps. Listen in to hear ways you might be able to…

SHOW NOTES “It’s easier to put slippers on your feet than to carpet the world” is a Chinese proverb. The carpet metaphor is used in this episode to illustrate the issue of control. I talk about how we can learn to stop trying to control others (carpet the world) and work on controlling ourselves (put…

SHOW NOTES In this episode I talk about moving away from the black-and-white thinking that if we’re flawed, that means we’re not awesome. It’s perfectly normal to be flawed, and it’s ok to let others see your flaws. When you accept your own flaws, you’ll become more accepting of other people’s flaws too! If you…

SHOW NOTES You don’t have to believe the thoughts running through your head! This pertains to thoughts about yourself (like “I’m not enough”) as well as  thoughts about others and the world. If you’re not choosing your thoughts *on purpose,* especially if they’re negative – think again! You don’t have to believe a thought just…

SHOW NOTES When someone doesn’t show up when expected, we might be tempted to think, “something happened!” This usually has a negative connotation, like they were in an accident. However, when we think, “something came up” it’s neutral and not likely to send is into a tailspin of negativity and anxiety. You can purposely choose…

SHOW NOTES You don’t have to do things you don’t want to over the holidays! This includes attending events, exchanging gifts, spending money or having uncomfortable conversations. You’ll learn a variety of tips for setting boundaries for the holidays, including some specific scripts so use and scenarios in which to use them. I also recommend…

SHOW NOTES Many of us come into recovery believing we’re “terminally unique” or that we’re “uniquely flawed.” What we learn is that we’re NOT terminally unique, and that there are many are many others like us. You are not alone, there are many others like you, and you DO belong. Here’s the link to my…

SHOW NOTES The ability to believe in new possibilities is at the heart of our ability to change. Gaining a new perspective on our lives and our problems opens us up to new possibilities. The way we think about things is often the source of our difficulties, rather than the situations themselves.  If you’d like…

Show Notes Sometimes we don’t realize we even had an expectation until it wasn’t met. Whether that’s true for you, or you KNOW you had an expectation about something, you’ll learn how to “unhook” from those expectations even after the situation is over! This will melt your resentment about not having your expectation met. Please…

Show Notes This episode covers several ways to reduce your emotional pain. It covers how to take advantage of the power of your “thinking brain” to help you clean up your negative thinking; practicing self care and connecting with others.    Please follow me on Instagram @HigherPowerCoaching, and check out my podcast website fragmentedtowhole.com. Be sure…