Friday Fragments

Issue 154, February 13, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ One of my clients recently asked me for concrete examples of emotional availability and vulnerability. She said something like this:“I show empathy. I validate people. I listen. I’m curious. I really try to be there. So why do I keep ending up with…

Issue 153, February 6, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ When Other People’s Feelings Feel Like Yours For most of my life, I felt other people’s feelings. I’ve seen this wig clients and fellows in recover too.   This ishard to explain unless you’ve lived it. It’s like being permeable. Other people’s feelings penetrate you,…

Issue 152. January 30, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ One of the most painful patterns I see, both in my own life and in my work with clients, is this: we often end up sabotaging the very thing we want most. Nowhere is this more true than in romantic relationships. We long…

Issue 151. January 23, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I once had a conversation with a sponsee who was sitting with a knot in her stomach. That conversation has stuck with me for years, and I’ve used it in coaching sessions with my clients. She’d gifted a significant amount of money to…

Issue 150. January 16, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I Thought I Was a Great Communicator. I Was Wrong. For a long time, I believed I was excellent at communicating. Before recovery, I was a program coordinator at Yale University, managing complex initiatives across as many as 25 schools at a time.…

Issue 149. January 9, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I had a conversation with a newcomer in recovery recently that landed like a perfect case study for romantic relationships. It was one of those moments where two lessons I teach all the time showed up in real life, fully formed. Those lessons…

Issue 148. January 2, 2026 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ January is a time when many people quietly take stock of their romantic relationships. Not just whether they’re partnered or single, but how they show up inside connection. How much they give. How much they tolerate. How safe they feel being fully themselves.…

Issue 147. December 19, 2025 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I had a conversation recently that reminded me of something I learned the hard way. A man in recovery told me he finally understood that his expectations were the very thing upsetting him. But he didn’t know how to stop having them. He…

Issue 146. December 12, 2025 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ There’s a popular saying in recovery circles that always makes me smile. People call it “stinkin’ thinkin.’” It’s the reminder that the problem isn’t you. The problem is the thoughts that have taken up residence in your mind and learned to sound like…

Issue 145. December 5, 2025 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ For most of my adult life, and honestly even part of my adolescence, I had this sense that something about me needed fixing. I kept thinking if I just read enough books, did enough workshops, journaled enough, or practiced the right spirituality, I’d…