Ep 199 – Four Ways to Manage Your Difficult Feelings When Setting Boundaries

The number one thing that stops people from setting boundaries is dealing with the feelings of guilt and shame that come up. This week’s episode 199 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about four ways to manage your difficult feelings when setting boundaries!

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I like to think of boundaries as the healthy midpoint on a continuum where enmeshment is on one end and abandonment is on the other. I’ll be honest when I say that getting to this midpoint is not easy but I encourage you to keep going and find the peace that boundaries bring. 

The four ways to manage difficult feelings when setting boundaries are: 

  1. Connect with other people who are going through the same thing as you to reassure and guide you. 
  2. Be (or become) a person of integrity. 
  3. Establish your higher power and hand things over to that power. 
  4. Use your intellect to change your mind about what you think. 

I start all my boundaries coaching with mindset work because you have to believe that being a good person includes having healthy boundaries before you can start to set them for yourself. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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