Podcasts

Learn how to overcome unrealistic expectations so you can let go of resentments. Show NotesI talk about how unrealistic expectations made my life unmanageable and was one of my worst defects of character, and how I learned to let them go. This not only helped me let go of resents from the past, but prevented…

If you’ve always been a fighter, taken flight or frozen during stressful situations, this episode will help you learn how to deal with those patterns. Show NotesThe body’s natural response to threats, whether perceived or real, is to fight, flee or freeze. I share how recovery has helped me reprogram my internal response to threat,…

Living into the wreckage of the future is when you assume catastrophes will happen and you plan for them in your mind, and this episode will help you learn how to stop that. Show NotesThis episode will show you that there is another way to live inside your head besides assuming the worst is always…

Learn how to tell the difference between healthy and unhealthy behaviors, such as helping vs rescuing or dissociation vs having a good time by looking at your motivation. Show NotesSometimes the very same behavior can be healthy or unhealthy, it depends on your motivation. In this episode, I share what I’ve learned about the difference…

Learn what enmeshed relationships look like and how to begin getting out of them. Show NotesIf you’re in a relationship or family system where you’re not allowed to have your own identity or opinions, then you’re likely enmeshed with those others and this episode will help you get un-enmeshed. I give examples of some of…

Understanding your part in things means you learn what to STOP doing so that your life can get better. Show NotesI describe some examples of coming to understand my part in things in an effort to help you understand your part in the chaos and drama of your life so you can stop doing those…

If you are having difficulty changing your thinking and behavior, learn how to act your way into right thinking based on this popular 12-step slogan. Show NotesRecovery programs are programs of action, not of thinking or believing. This episode addresses why that is the case, and gives methods for how to behave your way into…

If you’ve had the same negative thoughts about yourself forever and keep finding evidence that those thoughts are true, this episode will show you a way out of that kind of stinkin’ thinkin’. Show NotesStinkin’ thinkin’ is when the thoughts we think over and over again are negative, which affects what we pay attention to…

In this episode I illustrate how deeply entrenched our own denial can be by sharing a story of my own denial that took me years to see. Show NotesIf you have a high tolerance for dysfunction you might be in denial about your own behavior. This can lead to you being dishonest with yourself and…

Learn about how stopping giving too much information reduces the opportunity for others to disagree. Show NotesLearn to stop giving too much information to others, especially when you’re setting a boundary or negotiating. This reduces the chances that others can dispute what you’re saying and makes it easier to act.