Posts by Rosa Carrasco-Vergara
Ep 236 – How to Go from Hurting to Healing to Helping
One of the things the ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) literature says is “We progress from hurting to healing to helping and we awaken to a sense of wholeness we never knew possible.” I can attest, this has proven to be true in my own recovery experience. This week’s episode 236 of…
Read MoreHow to Make the Dynamic Shift from Victim to Empowerment
Part 4 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 45. October 20, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ The Drama Triangle is sometimes also referred to as the Victim Triangle. It’s a model of dysfunctional interaction first delineated by Stephen Karpman in 1968. It includes the roles of…
Read MoreEp 235 – Stop Trying to Win the Trauma Olympics By Comparing Your Trauma to Others
Content Warning: This episode includes brief mentions of abuse and other experiences that can cause trauma. We so easily compare ourselves to the people around us. While we can admit that comparison is not helpful, it can be especially harmful when we start comparing our trauma because it keeps us from healing. This week’s episode…
Read More7 Powerful Strategies to Get Out of Victim Mentality
Part 3 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 44. October 13, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Omid Armin 1. Realize you have victim mentalityThis mentality can be super hard to see because it’s deeply entrenched. Having this mentality doesn’t mean you’re bad or weak.…
Read MoreEp 234 – My Random Recovery Ramblings from the Middle of the Night
I woke up in the middle of the night and felt compelled to record the thoughts that were running through my head. I wanted to do this to share with you the constant mindset shifts and revelations I have as a result of my recovery journey. This week’s episode 234 of the Fragmented to Whole…
Read MoreBreaking Free from Victim Mentality: How to Discover Choices and Get Freedom
Part 2 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 43. October 6, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Fuu If you have the mentality of victimhood, you likely got it from being victimized in some way. For me, it was from growing up with the dysfunction…
Read MoreEp 233 – How to Resolve Irreconcilable Differences- Two Powerful Mind Shifts for Stronger Relationships
Every relationship has some type of irreconcilable differences and you are never going to be able to change these things about your partner or turn them into a different kind of person. The way we negotiate how we’re going to handle these differences directly determines the quality of our relationships. This week’s episode 233 of…
Read MoreWhy Coming Out of Victim Mentality Requires Looking at Your Own Behavior
Part 1 of 5: What Victim Mentality Is and How to Overcome It Issue 42. September 29, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Karobo Mdluli This is part 1 of a 5 part series on what victim mentality is and how to get out of it. In this essay, I’ll share…
Read MoreEp 232 – What Ruminating and Catastrophizing Are and Two Tools for How to Stop
I’ve come to realize through recovery that, even though I’ve always been a positive and optimistic person, I did a ton of ruminating about the past and catastrophizing about the future. This week’s episode 232 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about what ruminating and catastrophizing are and the tools to stop! Support the…
Read MoreEp 231 – Tools for How to Enjoy Your Vacation- MYOB and Zip It!
I am reminded of the question, “Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?” I know for a fact that before I was in recovery, I wanted to be right. After recovery, my priorities have shifted drastically. This week’s episode 231 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about tools for how…
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