Unshakable You:
The Fragmented to Whole Method
Break free from over-giving, build rock-solid boundaries, and become the calm, confident woman you were meant to be.
What This Program Is About
Do you feel like you’re constantly giving to everyone else but losing yourself in the process?
Unshakable You: The Fragmented to Whole Method
is a transformational coaching program designed to help you break free from people-pleasing,
set boundaries that stick, and reclaim your time, energy, and identity.
This isn’t just a boundaries course — it’s a complete method for going from
scattered and overextended to steady, resilient, and whole.
🌟 Who This Is For
✅ You’re ready to stop over-giving and start honoring your own needs
✅ You want clear, actionable tools — not just inspiration or theory
✅ You’re willing to practice new skills, even when it feels uncomfortable
✅ You crave peace, clarity, and confidence in your relationships
✅ You want to feel whole, steady, and unshakable — no matter what’s happening around you
🚫 Who This Is Not For
❌ You’re looking for a quick fix without doing the inner work
❌ You want to change other people without changing yourself
❌ You’re unwilling to reflect on your patterns or take responsibility for your growth
❌ You’re not ready to invest time and energy into your own healing
❌ You’re looking for a somatic experience rather than a mindset and behavioral approach
This is one of three episodes in a row (#261-3) where I took volunteers to coach live on my podcast. This episode features Nancy, who shares about issues of codepenence at work.
Listen to an actual coaching session with Barb:
"I have worked with so many other coaches and not had the kind of concrete takeaway, tangible results like this... I've talked for 10 years about boundaries with my therapist and didn't get this far." ~ Angie (after only 8 weeks!)
💥 What You Can Expect By the End
By the time you complete Unshakable You, you will:
- Set and communicate clear, compassionate boundaries
- Stop the exhausting cycle of overgiving and resentment
- Release guilt and take ownership of your time, energy, and choices
- Reconnect with your authentic self — your values, wants, and needs
- Become the calm, confident, and resilient person you were meant to be
You won’t just know about boundaries — you’ll be living them.
🛠️ What’s Included
✅ Step-by-step coaching modules covering mindset, communication, self-focus, and resilience
✅ Practical tools, scripts, and exercises you can apply in real life
✅ Reflection guides to help you break old patterns
✅ 1:1 Coaching support on zoom, via text and voice memos
✅ A personal “Boundary Blueprint” you can take with you into the future
Because this is a high-touch, individualized coaching experience, I only accept a limited number of clients at a time.
Ready to break free from over-giving
and step into your unshakable self?
Kind Words From My Clients
"I signed up because my family is just completely enmeshed. Everyone’s in everyone’s business. The other piece was at work. I just didn’t know how to say no to things and it was getting overwhelming. The biggest benefit of Barb’s coaching is feeling way less guilt about setting boundaries - recognizing that boundaries are not “the devil.” They’re actually helpful in helping me communicate to other people how to be in relationship with me."
"My relationship with my 16-year-old daughter has significantly improved. I've stopped micromanaging her life and realized she's perfectly capable of managing her own affairs. This shift has helped me see us as individuals rather than enmeshed. I'm also rediscovering my own identity. I've seen positive changes in my relationship with my husband, thanks to specific skills learned in the program. By letting go of expectations, focusing on my own needs, communicating my desires directly, and establishing healthy boundaries, our relationship has transformed. I'm learning to prioritize my own happiness, which is incredibly fulfilling."
"Without the ability to set and maintain the boundaries I needed, I couldn’t operate in the world without tending to others first, whether or not they asked for or wanted my help. Being so unapologetically other-focused, my only tool for relief was to cut people off and isolate when I hit a wall. Yet having squashed my needs and feelings for so long, I could no longer find any peace in isolation either.
Listening to Barb’s podcasts, I decided to take a chance with her, and it changed my life. As I moved through her 1:1 coaching program, I gained an understanding of why, where, and how to set boundaries, and got started right away. I trusted Barb’s immense scholarship, and quickly felt all the warmth and growth that is possible for a person when a lifelong shame finally thaws. Self-compassion is real for me now, for the first time EVER. No exaggeration. Boundaries are everything, and Barb is the master."
"I needed to set boundaries with an ex and my parents. This was unconscious at the time, but I knew that I couldn’t do it alone and that I needed support. So I sought out Barb. I went into the program seeking support for personal relationship boundaries, but ended up learning a ton about how to have better boundaries at work. I started to see that lessons about boundaries permeate every aspect of life.
I’ve managed to maintain the boundaries I set with the ex and my parents. Although this has steered me into uncharted life territory (which is weird and terrifying at times), I’ve never felt freer and I’ve never had such clarity about where I begin and end in relationships. I feel as if I’m starting fresh in life.
If you need to set any kind of boundary in your life, if you want to learn more about how you’re showing up in relationships, working with Barb will change your life. You'll start to see yourself more clearly and you'll have more agency. Her knowledge, insights, and approach are powerful and effective."
In the Unshakable You Private Coaching Program You'll Receive:
- 12 weekly 60-minute private coaching calls on Zoom
- A growing multi-media curriculum on how to build better boundaries
- A hard copy of my 137-page Better Boundaries Workbook with weekly training exercises to build personalized own boundary blueprint
- A TON of feedback tailored to you and your specific situations
- A private Trello Board for accountability, consistency and tracking your progress
- Unlimited 1:1 support with me via Telegram for text and voice messaging
- A 30-minute onboarding call to get you set up and answer questions about logistics
- BONUS! You'll have a free membership in the Guilt Free Guild while you're a private client. This is a monthly membership group that meetings 1st and 3rd Wednesdays at 8 p.m. EST/5 p.m. PST for women who want to connect with others while working on their boundaries
- BONUS! You'll have access to all the content in my Private Vault on an as-needed basis. This includes resources on a wide range of topics such as overcoming victim mentality and unrealistic expectations, feelings and emotions, cultivating happiness and joy and so much more!
Curriculum Description
1️ The Foundation – Altering Your Mindset
- Shifts false beliefs about boundaries (e.g., “I’m selfish if I say no”)
- Introduces the core idea: focus on yourself, not controlling others
2️ Developing Empowered Communication
- Teaches direct, clear communication
- Emphasizes difference between hurt and harm (boundaries may hurt but do not harm)
- Builds confidence in expressing wants, needs, limits
3️ Stepping Out from Behind Your Masks
- Helps clients drop false identities (e.g., “I have it all together”)
- Encourages authenticity instead of people-pleasing or perfectionism
4️ Boundary Mastery – Consequences That Count
- Explains boundaries using the metaphor of being a fence with a gate
- Introduces consequences as necessary to make boundaries real (not just hopes)
5️ Clear Lines – How to Know What’s Yours and What’s Not
- Clarifies ownership of feelings, attitudes, behaviors, and choices
- Teaches clients to stop over-owning others’ issues and to own their own
6️ Nurture and Protect – Welcoming the Good, Guarding Against the Bad
- Focuses on allowing in nurturing, supportive things
- Helps keep out toxic, draining, or harmful people and experiences
7 Boundaries That Shield – Protect Your Peace and Minimize Triggers
- Introduces protective strategies to reduce exposure to harm
- Emphasizes practical limits (e.g., limiting contact with toxic people, media boundaries)
8 Self-Containment Strategies – Guard Peace and End Chaos and Drama
- Teaches clients to rein in their own behavior to avoid fueling chaos
- Uses tools like the Serenity Prayer to define what is within their control
9 Guarding Your Sacred Resources
- Helps clients protect time, energy, money, love
- Challenges guilt and shame around preserving personal resources
10 Anchoring Boundaries in Your Values – Living on Purpose
- Connects boundaries to personal values and purpose
- Helps ensure boundaries reflect what matters most to the client
11 The Power of Healthy Connections
- Focuses on building supportive, safe relationships
- Emphasizes that connection, not isolation, is the goal of boundaries
12 Building Your Personalized Boundary Blueprint
- Creates a blueprint for you to follow going forward
- Anchors you in your top values and your top takeaways from the program
Rarely Asked Questions and Secret Fears
"Wow! Who knew?
Boundaries are more than saying no to others, it is also saying YES to yourself and much more. Private boundary coaching with Barb has been an agent of self-reflection and action that I needed. She is very supportive, organized, and empowering as she guides me through her system of boundary setting. Before Barb I read many self-help books. However, I found it hard to take action and fully integrate the new knowledge into my life with consistency. Barb’s format of boundary setting and coaching brings everything together and empowers me to take action. If you are ready to make a change I highly recommend seeking Barbs services."
– Carrie
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What people are saying
"Fear was driving me to place my focus, my wellbeing, my worthiness in the hands of everyone else. The pain and my dysfunctional response to my deep grief was severe enough for me to seek help.
In working with Barb and following her curriculum I came to understand that keeping the focus on myself and always acting in a way that is aligned with my values will be the only way to have true intimacy with the people I love. When the ability to have connection and closeness fails, I will remind myself that how someone else receives me is none of my business and how I chose to feel is only up to me. I will remember that I cannot “pick up milk at the hardware store”. - Jeanette
After only four weeks of private coaching, C had this to say: “I've had a great week - a really really really good week. I feel just so empowered, and I feel more in control of like myself and my life.”