Friday Fragments

Issue 79. June 14, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Ashlyn Ciara We have certain instincts that we’re born with. They’re natural and are supposed to be there. These are things like security, self-esteem, and personal relationships. But what happens for many of us is that these instincts get distorted and…

Issue 78. June 7, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Andrej Lisakov Yesterday a client told me her soon-to-be ex-wife called her “juvenile.” I wrote back “projection.” This was in response to my client asking to have their child’s car seat set up in her ex’s car according to the safety…

Issue 77. May 31, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Patrick Tomasso When I went through the process to stop gossiping, I realized a lot of things about myself. The realization that I gossiped was pretty astonishing, but there was so much more! Among other things, I realized… That last point is…

Issue 76. May 24, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Andrej Lisakov Spoiler alert! People usually get offended when you set boundaries with them because they don’t have healthy boundaries themselves!! That means if you’re getting offended when other people set limits with you, you probably don’t have healthy boundaries. ☹️ It could also be the case that they get offended because you’ve decided to…

Issue 75. May 17, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Ava Sol I’ve always thought of myself as a very positive and optimistic person. When I got into recovery, I realized that I had a lot of negative thinking. Sometimes, it was ruminating about the past, but more often it was catastrophizing about the future. I call…

Issue 74. May 10, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Priscilla Du Preez and Sage Friedman For some reason, most of the people I work with are super concerned about not being selfish. People (especially women) act like being selfish is one of the worst sins you can commit. Even being perceived as selfish is so distressing…

Issue 73. May 3, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Getty Images If you’ve ever felt like you keep trying to get to balance but are not able to get there because you keep getting thrown off, this essay is for you. When we think about balance in our lives, we tend to think it…

Issue 72. April 26, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Uday Mittal One of the insights I gained early in my recovery journey was that I’d been expecting people to read my mind my whole life—well, at least subconsciously. If you had asked me, “Are you expecting people to read your mind?” I probably would…

Issue 71. April 19, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ There are two kinds of “uncomfortable.” The first might come up if you grew up in a chaotic and dysfunctional family like I did. That means you learned to put up with difficulty and discomfort. It could have been emotional, psychological, or physical…

Issue 70. April 12, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Valeriia Miller Emotional pain sucks. Sometimes, it’s worse than physical pain. I’ve got some ways for you to reduce the amount and frequency of your emotional pain. I’ll share those at the end after sharing the ways I prolonged and increased…