Friday Fragments

Issue 28. June 23, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Mason Wilkes “It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us.” – The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous When I first read this quote I thought, “fuck…

Issue 27. June 16, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Kamran Abdullayev When we’re enmeshed, we aren’t allowed to express our individuality and we aren’t capable of focusing on ourselves. We’re overly concerned with other people. We may think we’re involved in life, but we’re really not involved in our own…

Issue 26. June 9, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ One of the most important concepts I learned in recovery is “info, not ammo.” That is, when you learn something negative about yourself, don’t use it as ammunition to beat yourself up, use it as information to learn, incorporate and grow from. This…

Issue 25. June 2, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Kamran Abdullayev People often confuse humility with humiliation. It makes sense because they sound quite similar. But they’re not! I’ll start with humiliation because I’m not going to spend a lot of time on that in this essay. Humiliation is when you feel…

Issue 24. May 26, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ 12 Step recovery is for people with either a physical or process addiction. Physical addiction is when there’s some kind of substance we’re physically dependent on, like alcohol, drugs or food. A process addiction is when we have a compulsion to engage consistently…

Issue 23. May 19, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Most people are clear that there are such things as boundaries of self-protection, though they may not call them that. And if they have poor boundaries, they’re probably also clear that others are “walking all over them” (thus the need for boundaries of…

Issue 22. May 12, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Sometimes people get offended when you set boundaries with them because they don’t have healthy boundaries themselves. That means if you’re getting offended when other people set boundaries with you, it may be because you don’t have healthy boundaries yourself! When we start to set boundaries with others…

Issue 21. May 5, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Boundaries are about relationships and love. In order to have intimacy, you must have healthy boundaries! One of the things I did, that is very common among those with unhealthy boundaries, was try to “hot wire” emotional intimacy through sex. It doesn’t work that way.…

Issue 19. April 21, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I never used to be able to be consistent with self-care or following through on things for myself. Of course, as a former people-pleaser, I could be counted on to be consistent for others. In fact, I prided myself on being reliable. I…

Issue 18. April 14, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Today would have been my brother Pat’s 52nd birthday if he was still alive. He died on June 20, 2006 at the age of 35 of Legionnaire’s Disease. He’d been severely debilitated by his bipolar disorder for 15 years, and also had a substance…