Friday Fragments

Issue 38. September 1, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ When I first started learning about boundaries, the idea that boundaries are self-protective was the concept of boundaries that I understood first. That is, they’re about setting limits with other people about what I will and will not tolerate, what’s okay with me…

Issue 37. August 25, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I learned how to form healthy boundaries within the context of 12-step recovery. I was in a program for people who grew up with relational trauma where you reparent yourselves and use the 12 steps to recover. I did that work in a…

Issue 36. August 18, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Gursimrat Ganda Surrender doesn’t mean you lose, it means you give up the battle. If you were in an actual battle with live enemies, that might seem like a loss. But when you’re in a battle with addiction, compulsion, chaos, and…

Issue 35. August 11, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Just because you think something doesn’t mean it’s true! That’s why you want to talk to yourself more than you listen to yourself. Your negative self-talk is like poison in the well of your mind. When you stop the negative self-talk, that well becomes purified. But if…

Issue 34. August 4, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Jon Tyson Some of the most effective boundaries I’ve used in my life are around my time. I’ve always been a very productive person, but my productivity has sky rocketed since I’ve built healthy boundaries. These include: Using a timer I…

Issue 33. July 28, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Colen Meg One of the most important questions I’ve learned to ask myself when trying to decide what the right thing is for me to do is, “What are my motives?” I came to see that my motives for helping people…

Issue 32. July 21, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Christian Rucinski Have you been making things mean things that they don’t? I used to do that all the time. Typically, I’d decide someone’s behavior I didn’t like meant something about me. Something negative, that is. Then I’d act as if the meaning…

Issue 31. July 14, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ This image was inspired by management guru Stephen Covey who introduced the concept of Circles of Concern versus Circles of Control. I love it for so many reasons, including that it’s really helpful for visual learners. If you want to live your life on purpose and be…

Issue 30. July 7, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Alexei Maridashvili If you follow my writing, speaking or podcasting, it’s probably because you want your life to be better. That is, you want something (or things) to change in your life. Trying to make changes in your lifelong habits is hard.…

Issue 29. June 30, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Hannah Busing I’ve lived alone most of my adult life and I got really good at isolation. That’s how I dealt with my fears and anxieties for decades before recovery. I indulged in my various addictions and compulsions in isolation, though…