Episode 144: You have Choices – How to End your Suffering by Lowering your Expectations

I got a message from a long-time listener asking for this topic in a podcast episode because she could really use some guidance on lowering your expectations. Turns out, I have 4 episodes on lowering expectations, and it’s been a huge part of my recovery and a foundational piece to my sobriety. That’s why episode 144 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the choices you have that can end your suffering by lowering your expectations! 

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of lowering your expectations and actionable steps you get to take right now to change those expectations to live a more peaceful life. 

Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:

  • How I look at the serenity prayer to help me understand why I need to lower my expectations and only focus on changing myself, and how I cannot change others’.
  • How I needed to lower my expectations around my brother, who is one of the smartest people I know but who doesn’t live up to his potential and my expectations of him, and deal with him as he is. 
  • The key differences between lowering your expectations and lowering your standards, and how the key to ending your suffering is NOT lowering your standards and it really depends on your values and setting boundaries.
  • The power in understanding my part in things and keeping the focus on myself is where the power is.

I don’t know about you, but I am fucking done with suffering. I want to get to peace. Hopefully, this episode helps you get closer to peace too. So be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

What is Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery?

This is the podcast “Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery.” It will help people who want to heal to move from fragmented to whole.

Hi, I’m Barb! I share my experience, strength and hope from 12 step recovery in each episode. They’re all 20 minutes or less. Unlike most recovery podcasts where you hear a person’s whole story, in this one each episode is about a specific topic.

There are many life lessons from 12 step recovery that are applicable to those in and outside of recovery. This podcast brings some of those lessons to the airwaves, including such topics as learning acceptance, recognizing and overcoming victim mentality and establishing healthy boundaries.

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