Ep 195 – Your Step-by-Step Guide For How to Mindfully Rekindle Old Friendships

I recently talked to a friend from recovery who asked me if I had any advice or experience when it comes to rekindling an old friendship and of course I do so I wanted to share the advice I gave to her with you as well. This week’s episode 195 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is your step-by-step guide for how to mindfully rekindle old friendships!

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the advice I gave to my friend for how to rekindle an old friendship and some example language to use if you’re just not sure where to start. 

I do what to make a disclaimer that in this scenario, my friend was the one who asked her friend for some space so this may look a bit different if it played out the other way around for you. 

The basic steps I have laid out for you to use if you’re planning to rekindle a friendship are:

  1. Keep the focus on yourself, not the other person.
  2. Think about why you disconnected from the other person. 
  3. Think about why you want to rekindle this relationship.
  4. Know why now of all times you want to do this. 
  5. Ask yourself if you clearly communicated your issues with the person at the time. 
  6. Ask yourself if you requested they take specific actions at the time.
  7. Get clear on what you’d need from the other person in order to stay in the relationship with them. 

I’d love to hear your feedback on what came up for you regarding your own relationships after listening to this episode. Especially if you’re someone like me who has changed and continue to change in recovery, I’d love to hear the things you’ve decided to say when you’re trying to rekindle old friendships or renegotiate the terms of your existing friendships. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

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