Lose Yourself in Love? Let’s Reclaim You.
You don’t have to choose between love and self-respect. Learn to set boundaries that keep you connected to others and to yourself.
Why Romantic Boundaries Are So Hard
Why Is It So Easy to Give Too Much?
When you grow up equating love with sacrifice, boundaries can feel like rejection. Maybe you try to keep the peace, avoid abandonment, or prove your worth by giving more than you get. The truth is, healthy love requires healthy limits. And setting them doesn’t make you cold—it makes you courageous.
❤️ Stop people-pleasing in relationships
❤️ Say no to drama, guilt, and codependency
❤️ Let go of rescuing and over-functioning
❤️ Create space for mutual respect
❤️ Feel secure without losing yourself
💕Romantic Boundaries Quiz💕
Are You Losing Yourself in Love?”
Find out how your boundaries are holding up in romantic relationships—and what to do if they’re not.
Choose the answer that best reflects your current experience in romantic relationships. Tally your total A’s, B’s, and C’s at the end.
- When your partner or crush wants something you’re uncomfortable with, you usually...
A. Go along with it to avoid conflict or rejection.
B. Hesitate, then give in while feeling uneasy.
C. Speak up clearly, even if it’s hard. - You tend to...
A. Abandon your own needs in order to keep the peace.
B. Overthink everything you say or do in the relationship.
C. Stay grounded in who you are, even when things get emotional. - When you feel triggered or hurt in a relationship, you usually...
A. Blame yourself and try harder to fix things.
B. Withdraw or become passive-aggressive.
C. Name what’s happening and set a boundary if needed. - You often worry that if you set boundaries, your partner will...
A. Leave or love you less.
B. Get defensive or pull away.
C. Respect you more—even if it’s uncomfortable at first. - You feel most like yourself in love when...
A. You’re doing everything you can to keep them happy.
B. Things are peaceful, even if it means hiding your needs.
C. You feel seen, safe, and self-connected.
Results:
Mostly A’s:
🚩 You tend to abandon yourself for love. You may feel like you're too much, not enough, or that boundaries will scare people off.
Mostly B’s:
⚠️ You know something’s off, but haven’t found your footing. You’re starting to see your patterns, but may still be stuck in guilt, fear, or silence.
Mostly C’s:
🎉 You’re showing up for yourself in love!
The Romantic Boundary Spiral
What Happens When You Don't Set Boundaries?
The spiral ENDS when you stop abandoning yourself in the name of love.
Romantic Boundaries Start Here
Have you ever lost yourself in love?
You give, and give, and give—until you’re exhausted, resentful, or invisible.
You stay silent to keep the peace. You shrink yourself to be chosen.
You ignore red flags, override your gut, and call it “love.”
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken.
You’ve just never been taught how to stay connected to yourself while connecting with someone else.
💬 Your First Step: Reclaim Yourself in Relationships
This 90-minute private coaching session is your starting point. It’s where you stop settling, stop over-giving, and start building boundaries from the inside out.
This focused coaching session will help you stop abandoning yourself in love and start building real connection—with yourself and others.
✅ Set a grounded intention for love
✅ Identify the values you want to protect in romance
✅ Create personalized, actionable boundaries based on your truth
✅ Release the fears that have kept you in unhealthy patterns
✅ Includes a 30-min follow-up to reinforce your progress
This isn’t about learning how to say no to others.
It’s about learning to say yes to yourself.
Ready to stop disappearing in love?
Shameless Boundaries: Say Yes to You, No to Others
If you've been losing yourself in love—shrinking to be chosen, avoiding conflict, or giving more than you get—this self-paced course will help you reclaim your power in relationships.
Learn to set healthy boundaries without guilt, shame, or fear of abandonment. You can stay connected to someone else without disconnecting from yourself.
Want stronger relationship boundaries? Join the Guilt‑Free Guild for ongoing support, practical scripts, and real‑time coaching to help love thrive without losing yourself.
Guilt Free Guild
A twice-monthly coaching group for women focusing on boundaries in relationships, personally and professionally
Coming Soon!
✅ 4-Session Coaching Series
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- The Relationship Reset: Love without Losing Yourself
Reclaim your voice, you needs and your peace - without blowing up your relationship.
- The Relationship Reset: Love without Losing Yourself
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What Are These Bundles?
Each bundle is a curated collection of my best boundary-building resources—pulled directly from my coaching practice, podcast, newsletters, and handouts. They’re designed to help you dive deep into one specific area of your life where boundaries matter most.
Whether you're navigating work stress, complicated relationships, or emotional burnout, each bundle gives you practical tools, real-life insights, and powerful mindset shifts to help you stop over-giving and start standing strong in your truth.
For women who lose themselves in relationships or fear abandonment.
For women new to boundary work and recovering from over-giving.
For women who feel guilt or fear about asserting themselves.
For women rediscovering themselves after years of self-neglect.
For women healing from emotional wounds or spiritual disconnection.
For women who dread family events or feel guilt during holidays.
For women who try to fix others' emotions and feel over-responsible.
For women struggling with shame, perfectionism, or self-hate.
Free Support for Building Better Relationships
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What people are saying
"I've seen positive changes in my relationship with my husband, thanks to specific skills learned in the program. By letting go of expectations, focusing on my own needs, communicating my desires directly, and establishing healthy boundaries, our relationship has transformed. I'm learning to prioritize my own happiness, which is incredibly fulfilling! ~ Sarah
"I’m learning how my boundaries are the map I can share with others to build intimacy in my relationships, rather than being quiet and growing resentment in my old ways of interaction. I’m learning to grow intimacy rather than resentment." ~ Carrie
"I got the courage to separate from my alcoholic husband after 23 years of being together and 8 years of marriage. I started coming out of denial about my childhood and the role that trauma played in my relationships as an adult...I have been living on my own for almost 3 months. This is the first time I have ever lived on my own (I'm 62). I have found a renewed spirituality and relationship to God. I've experienced more peace than I've felt in many years." ~ Cathy
"I've learned the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships and how I may have equated love with behavior that I was taught that is actually unhealthy." ~ Chris