Fragmented to Whole
Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery
This podcast can help you go from fragmented to whole. The title of the podcast comes from my journey of recovery in 12 step programs where I came in feeling fragmented and now I AM WHOLE. I talk about how that happened, and many of the lessons I've learned in recovery. I cover such topics as learning acceptance, overcoming unrealistic expectations, intimacy, forgiveness and boundaries.
Most episodes are 20 minutes or less. The first episode is my story in brief so you'll hear about the kind of profound life changes that I experienced in 12-step recovery. Other episodes cover specific topics such as Acceptance, Victim Mentality, Overcoming Negative Thought Loops, etc. You don't have to be in recovery to benefit from it though!
One last (very important) thing. I don't speak for or endorse any particular 12 step program of recovery. Though I'm a huge fan of 12 step recovery, and a member of two 12 step fellowships, I cannot speak them. Take what you want and leave the rest. Oh - and, I swear. A lot. If you don't like swearing, don't listen!
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Ep. 295: Boundaries Made Simple- How to Communicate Clearly, Honestly, and Politely
Send us a textAs we know, boundaries are essential for our well-being, but communicating them effectively can be a challenge. Last week on the podcast, I shared the importance of mastering communication to create healthy relationships. As a continuation of that, I wanted to share my tips for how to clearly communicate our boundaries with others. This…
Ep. 294: How to Master Communication, Avoid Conflict, and Create Healthier Relationships
Send us a text Before getting into recovery, I thought that I was a good communicator. While that may have been the case when it came to my work, I came to realize that interpersonally, I was actually a horrible communicator. This week’s episode 294 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to…
Ep. 293: How Building Boundaries Helps You Achieve Emotional Sobriety
Send us a text Most people know that the goal of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is sobriety, but what they don’t know is that the goal of Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) is emotional sobriety. And if you’ve listened to my podcast for some time, you will not be shocked to hear that…
Ep. 292: Rediscovering Love for My Father- A Journey Through Resentment and Healing
Send us a text I have been following a guy named David Bayer for some time now and have been greatly influenced by him. One of the many pieces of wisdom he shares about limiting beliefs is that when we have a core limiting belief that we can’t seem to let go of, no matter…
Ep. 291: Reclaiming My Inner Teen’s Voice- How to Say No With Inner Strength
Send us a text As part of my ACA recovery journey, I have been making daily conscious contact with my inner family members, one of which includes my inner teenager. Through this inner work and checking in with my inner teen, I have realized that my people-pleasing ways have put me in harm’s way. Since…
Ep. 290: Connection, Cold Exposure and Plant Medicine with Jesse Harless
Send us a text If you’re not familiar with the term acting “as if”- it’s a common saying in 12-step recovery and one of the ways we learn to adopt new ways of being in the world. Acting “as if” is essentially engaging in behaviors toward the goal of achieving something positive in your life…
Ep. 289: How to Go Beyond Pretending- Build Your Authenticity Through Acting “As If”
Send us a text If you’re not familiar with the term acting “as if”- it’s a common saying in 12-step recovery and one of the ways we learn to adopt new ways of being in the world. Acting “as if” is essentially engaging in behaviors toward the goal of achieving something positive in your life…
Ep. 288: Overgiving No More- Part 2: How Boundaries Restore Balance and Energize Your Life
Send us a text Last week on the podcast, I talked about how setting healthy boundaries was the key to changing the four patterns of overgiving. I want to further that conversation today by providing actionable guidance on understanding yourself better, setting boundaries that reflect your actual wants and needs, and upholding your boundaries once…
Ep. 287: Overgiving No More- Part 1: Recognizing the Four Patterns That Drain You
Send us a text I have always been a giver, but through recovery, I came to terms with the fact that I had been an overgiver. I felt obligated to drop everything and give to everyone at the drop of a hat, which was draining. However, through building healthy boundaries, I learned to give in…
Ep. 286: Build Bridges, Not Walls-How and Why Boundaries Bring Us Closer to Others
Send us a text Many people think that building boundaries is about building walls between us and other people. While this is true in cases where you may have a dangerous or toxic person in your life that you need to build a wall between, in the majority of cases, boundaries actually bring us closer…
Ep. 285: When Gifts Become Trauma- Emotional Invalidation in Relationships
Send us a text Since getting into ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families), I have come to understand that I have gift trauma. This is a form of relational trauma (sometimes referred to as little t trauma) that is a result of something happening in the context of a relationship over time. For…
Ep. 284: Control, Fear, Faith and the Power of Boundaries- Gems from My Recovery Journal
Send us a text Throughout my recovery journey, I have gotten into the habit of writing down personal revelations or impactful quotes that I come across to document my experiences and insights. Many of these made a profound impact on my perception of things, so I wanted to share some of them with you today.…
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