Friday Fragments

Part 2 of 5: Overcoming Unrealistic Expectations Issue 57. January 12, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ The reason I’m doing this five-part series is that having unrealistic expectations has been the story of my life. Letting go of those expectations has been an enormous part of my recovery and something I continue…

Part 1 of 5: Overcoming Unrealistic Expectations Issue 56. January 5, 2024 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: ph-m-chung One of the most disruptive patterns I discovered in early recovery was that I had all kinds of unrealistic expectations – of myself, others and the world. Since this was such an enormous…

Issue 55. December 29, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Dayne Topkin When I first heard the saying, “It’s none of your business what other people think of you”, I had no idea what that meant. I seriously couldn’t wrap my mind around it. Every time I thought about that saying,…

Issue 54. December 22, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Tim Mossholder I believe I’ve always pretty much liked myself. But I realized in recovery that I didn’t really love myself, and I didn’t feel worthy. When I inventoried my life, I could see, “Those were not the behaviors of a woman who feels…

Issue 53. December 15, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Fellipe Ditadi Learning to love yourself is one of the most incredible gifts you can give yourself. In essence, treat yourself as if you are beloved, and you will be. This is the second of my three-part series on how to…

Issue 52. December 8, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Fellipe Ditadi On a recent call with a private client, she said, “I am falling in love with myself!” I cannot tell you how unbelievably awesome that makes me feel! My heart is swollen with pride and love that I get…

In 2015, at the age of 52, I hit a codependent bottom and landed in 12-step recovery. This was after 37 years of therapy and tons of other personal development efforts. You name it, I tried it! All those things scratched the surface of the iceberg of my life, whereas 12-step recovery melted the iceberg. By far…

Issue 51. December 1, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Ozkan Guner The concept of willingness is something we talk about frequently in recovery. We say if you’re willing, you can make it through just about anything.” But just because you’re willing to do something doesn’t mean you want to do that thing. I am…

Issue 50. November 24, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Vanessa Kintaudi This is, by far, the most important thing that enabled me to go from having no boundaries for 50-something years to building healthy boundaries: I came to care more about what *I* think of me than what other people…

Issue 49. November 17, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Photo Credit: Adi Goldstein If you’re the kind of person who is always looking for someone to blame, welcome to the club! That was me. But I didn’t even realize that was what I was doing until I got into recovery. I’ve come…