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Why Caring About Someone Can Turn Into Carrying Their Feelings
photo credit: Curated Lifestyle This is part of The Hidden Mechanics of Boundaries, a limited series about what happens under the surface before, during, and after a boundary. When someone you love is upset, something inside you shifts. Perhaps your partner’s disappointed that you’ve made plans without them. Or maybe a family member’s overwhelmed and…
Why Being Helpful, Responsible, and Kind Can Become Self-Abandonment
image credit: Chat GPT This is part of The Hidden Mechanics of Boundaries, a limited series about what happens under the surface before, during, and after a boundary. Someone asks whether you can help with something. You’re already tired. Your calendar is full, you have priorities of your own, and you may even feel your…
Why You Can Know Exactly What You Need and Still Disappear in the Moment
photo credit: Curated Lifestyle This is part of The Hidden Mechanics of Boundaries, a limited series about what happens under the surface before, during, and after a boundary. You can walk into a conversation knowing exactly what you need. You’ve thought it through, written it down, and perhaps even practiced what you’re going to say.…
Why You Say Yes Before You’ve Actually Decided
photo credit: Getty Images This is part of The Hidden Mechanics of Boundaries, a limited series about what happens under the surface before, during, and after a boundary. Someone asks if you can help with something, attend something, take something on, or change your plans for them. Before you’ve considered your schedule, your energy, what…