Fragmented to Whole

Issue 25. June 2, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ photo credit: Kamran Abdullayev People often confuse humility with humiliation. It makes sense because they sound quite similar. But they’re not! I’ll start with humiliation because I’m not going to spend a lot of time on that in this essay. Humiliation is when you feel…

Issue 24. May 26, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ 12 Step recovery is for people with either a physical or process addiction. Physical addiction is when there’s some kind of substance we’re physically dependent on, like alcohol, drugs or food. A process addiction is when we have a compulsion to engage consistently…

Issue 23. May 19, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Most people are clear that there are such things as boundaries of self-protection, though they may not call them that. And if they have poor boundaries, they’re probably also clear that others are “walking all over them” (thus the need for boundaries of…

Issue 22. May 12, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Sometimes people get offended when you set boundaries with them because they don’t have healthy boundaries themselves. That means if you’re getting offended when other people set boundaries with you, it may be because you don’t have healthy boundaries yourself! When we start to set boundaries with others…

Issue 21. May 5, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Boundaries are about relationships and love. In order to have intimacy, you must have healthy boundaries! One of the things I did, that is very common among those with unhealthy boundaries, was try to “hot wire” emotional intimacy through sex. It doesn’t work that way.…

Issue 19. April 21, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ I never used to be able to be consistent with self-care or following through on things for myself. Of course, as a former people-pleaser, I could be counted on to be consistent for others. In fact, I prided myself on being reliable. I…

Issue 18. April 14, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ Today would have been my brother Pat’s 52nd birthday if he was still alive. He died on June 20, 2006 at the age of 35 of Legionnaire’s Disease. He’d been severely debilitated by his bipolar disorder for 15 years, and also had a substance…

Issue 17. March 31, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ When I first heard the phrase “live life on life’s terms” I really didn’t know what that meant. This was yet another saying from recovery where I understood the surface meaning, but not what it really meant. That’s because I wasn’t living life on life’s terms.…

Issue 16. March 17, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ When I first got  into recovery, I started to realize there was a continuum of helpfulness where one end was dysfunctional and the other was functional. Those two extremes of the continuum were easy for me to see, but I was lost when…

Issue 15. March 10, 2023 ✨ Higher Power Coaching & Consulting ✨ One of the most amazing benefits of my recovery is the drastic improvement of my relationships. My romantic relationship is a perfect example of that – for the first time in my life I’m in a healthy loving, committed a relationship. I learned…