Ep 152: How to Stop Taking Things Personally and Come Out of Victim Mentality

Probably the most important paradigm shift of my entire recovery journey was coming out of victim mentality. I had no idea I had this mentality but I could spot a victim a mile away; I thought I could save them all. When I finally discovered that I had victim mentality, it was a huge awakening; what else did I not know about myself? That’s why episode 152 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about getting out of victim mentality! 

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In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of not taking things personally and actionable steps you can take right now to take responsibility for the part you have in every relationship you’re in. I really figured this out myself while reflecting on my past relationships. I acted as if I wasn’t responsible for any part of them; the person I was in a relationship with was responsible for everything wrong, and I was just there (well, actually, I thought I was responsible for all the good things in those relationships!). This was true of all relationships: family, friends, colleagues, and romantic partners. 

This mental shift allows me to set boundaries, be more openly honest to those in my life, and recognize that it’s not always about me. It’s a completely different way of thinking. So be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.

What is Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery?

This is the podcast “Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery.” It will help people who want to heal to move from fragmented to whole.

Hi, I’m Barb! I share my experience, strength and hope from 12 step recovery in each episode. They’re all 20 minutes or less. Unlike most recovery podcasts where you hear a person’s whole story, in this one each episode is about a specific topic.

There are many life lessons from 12 step recovery that are applicable to those in and outside of recovery. This podcast brings some of those lessons to the airwaves, including such topics as learning acceptance, recognizing and overcoming victim mentality and establishing healthy boundaries.

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